Is this poor etiquette?

[Perspicacity]

Here's the situation, lets say your in a raid, more over lets say your in a guild raid where a degree of loyalty is expected AND your in some integral roll like mane healer or something and your girlfriend or what have you walks in and says she want's... hmm, how do I word this on a forum that kids read... you know... she wants the only thing that would make most guys like us even consider bailing on a guild raid half way through, you know what I mean. *WINK WINK*

This is a toughy because on one hand any guy who would put any video game above a real woman has no business calling himself a man but at the same time dems ya boyz you can't bail on em for a woman can ya?

What's the right course of action here, bail on your guild or lose your girlfriend? Another thing to consider is if your one of the guild members on the other side of this and you guildy bails on you because his GF wants some action what is an appropriate response?

To compare notes lets put this question to the ladies, and I know there are some ladies who play DDO, what do you do if your man walks in the room and he wants some "Special time" while your in a guild raid? I suspect that the most popular answer will be something along the lines of, "never gonna happen cause hes in the raid with me," but I doubt that's a blanket situation so assume for this scenario that he's not and he's feeling randy baby, yeah!

I personally would say sorry guys duty calls and bail on the raid, but I have known guys who've told there ladies to bugger off, and I mean like all rude to, "Cant you see I'm in a raid woman?!" kinda thing. Naturally they got dumped. No surprise there, he had it coming, I mean no woman likes to be second place to a computer.

I guess my question is, in this situation am I a jerk for leaving the raid to be with my lady? I'm just curious as to what the community thinks and if your one of those players that still think girls have cooties don't bother responding to this post your to young to understand the dilemma anyway.

[Sirea]

Learn to multitask!

[Perspicacity]

Learn to multitask!

touche.

[Anarkius]

/LOL

This is definately a line in the sand at high tide friend.

As a married man (7 years now) - sorry guildies if the wife is up for some action, I'm gone. Poor ettiquite or not. Been there done that. Banned from groups and guild raids because of it. OH WELL!!

[Pizzasoup]

If duty calls, you gotta serve, soldier.

[Visty]

well, i think we can say:
new guildys are found fast, but getting a new Gf might take a while

imo the only thing you could have done is bailing on the group.
if your guildys are friends, they understand

[Creddi]

There will be other raids, other players, other servers if need be, but your girlfriend is there, and presumably you care about her or she would just be your cheap date or something.

GF favor > complete strangers in a game.

Of course if she only does that kind of thing when you sit down to play you will have to either consider that as a fetish on her part and enjoy it, or find a different girlfriend...

[Perspicacity]

/LOL

This is definately a line in the sand at high tide friend.

As a married man (7 years now) - sorry guildies if the wife is up for some action, I'm gone. Poor ettiquite or not. Been there done that. Banned from groups and guild raids because of it. OH WELL!!

So would you be mad at someone if they did it to you? Like I said earlier I'd do the same thing as you so if some one bailed on me for this particular reason I'd let it slide.

[Perspicacity]

If duty calls, you gotta serve, soldier.

ROFL, indeed.

[Creddi]

So would you be mad at someone if they did it to you? Like I said earlier I'd do the same thing as you so if some one bailed on me for this particular reason I'd let it slide.

Put it this way... if the anger of a bunch of people you are playing a game with worries you more than the anger of a woman you reject in favor of a game, you are with the wrong woman. Make your apologies to them and pay attention to her.

[Quikster]

/LOL

This is definately a line in the sand at high tide friend.

As a married man (7 years now) - sorry guildies if the wife is up for some action, I'm gone. Poor ettiquite or not. Been there done that. Banned from groups and guild raids because of it. OH WELL!!

Same. Sorry, I can raid anytime, if I dont get it now, no telling when its comming around again.

AFK 7 secs, BIO.

[cdemeritt]

Well, one of IFV's top rules, real life comes first.....

I find it hard to date sometimes, if I worry about raid schedules and all... "Yeah tonights not a good night, I gotta kill Harry and beat up Sally...." doesn't go over well.

but If you gotta go, you gotta go... No aggro is worse than Wife/Girlfriend aggro.....

[Krag]

If duty calls, you gotta serve, soldier.

Not sure which task are you considering as a duty

[Talish]

Learn to multitask!

Hehehe.

There's always room under my desk for hubby.

[Strakeln]

Once you're married, you can schedule such things.

6:30: Dinner
7:00: Tang
8:00: DDO

[Perspicacity]

There will be other raids, other players, other servers if need be, but your girlfriend is there, and presumably you care about her or she would just be your cheap date or something.

GF favor > complete strangers in a game.

Of course if she only does that kind of thing when you sit down to play you will have to either consider that as a fetish on her part and enjoy it, or find a different girlfriend...

Ahh, a caveat. What if your GF bugs you allot when your in game and it seems like she is directly trying to interfere with your gaming? I mean GREAT strategy 'n all but 1. there's a point when you gotta say, ok baby I'm getting sore and I'm about to level, I'm going back to game and 2. we'll wise up and just sit in front of the computer when we are in the mood.

[Xaearth]

I'd say you have one of two options, which you should choose depends on your... erm... playstyle...

1) Freak power outage, aka unplug the modem.
2) "Oh ****... sorry guys, AFK BIO!"... 5 minutes later... "Back. Knew I shouldn't have eaten that week old burrito..."

[Perspicacity]

no Aggro Is Worse Than Wife/girlfriend Aggro.....

Rotflmao!!!

[Anarkius]

So would you be mad at someone if they did it to you? Like I said earlier I'd do the same thing as you so if some one bailed on me for this particular reason I'd let it slide.

I have a simple philosophy about the game...REAL LIFE takes priority. This is just a game!

Let's look at this logically. If your house was on fire would you leave a guild raid to put it out? If your kid fell and busted their dome on the end table, would you put a cold pack on their head and say 'we'll go get you stirches as soon as Daddy's done with this raid"?

I cannot fault people for real life situations that arise (no pun intended). And anyone that does, I really don't want to group with anyway (could be the reason I am a one man guild for the most part).

[Perspicacity]

I'd say you have one of two options, which you should choose depends on your... erm... playstyle...

1) Freak power outage, aka unplug the modem.
2) "Oh ****... sorry guys, AFK BIO!"... 5 minutes later... "Back. Knew I shouldn't have eaten that week old burrito..."

5 min? I don't know about you but if I leave for my lady I'm out for the night. The bedroom is the one place I NEVER zerg.