Help, I did lose my character , all of them .

[Hawkwier]

The problem is this:



It was not an act out of anger, it was pre-meditated. Whether it is a car, a house, a game console or a shirt it is not her property. No matter what the dude did because there's the option to take a break or end the relationship.
Love and forgiveness is not the same as standing watching how someone is breaking your stuff. You gotta love yourself as much as you love your partner.

Nonsense. You have no real clue what the problem is. Folks pretending otherwise is the real problem. Whether projecting their own unfortunate experience or for other reasons.

Also picking up on your comment, another wider problem is too many folks loving themselves a bit too much, driven in part by the transactional society in which we live. Self esteem is one thing. Selfishness is quite another on the same spectrum. There are quite a few folks in this life I love more than myself. I'd live a pretty sad and lonely life were that not the case. Trite soundbiites to the contrary may seem pithy. They don't mean much though.

I'm not saying there is no problem here. I'm saying I don't know enough to be sure. And I'm also saying neither do you. Difference is I'm not trying to pontificate or advise on a problem without understanding the context better. Only the OP knows. Not you. Not me. Not anyone else on here either.

Anyway I'm calling BS on any such superficial advice. Folks can feel to disagree. I wish them luck whatever. It's only an anonymous forum after all.

[SurlyYuri]

Sorry but you're as ignorant of this situation as I am. The difference is I'm not deluded enough to believe otherwise. You don't even know this guys real name, let alone what caused the lady to act as she did. Seriously, you honestly think a gaming forum is an appropriate or healthy place to dish out relationship advice? And based on what - a few lines of post? And you cite reasonable?!!?

Reducing an intimate relationship to a mere contract is a pretty warped perspective imo. Where does love and forgiveness factor in to such reductive "reasoning"? Not condoning what she did, but who hasn't done something a bit stupid when angry and frustrated at something/someone. Everyone on the internet are such paragons though. Aye. Right.

Part of this nonsense maybe comes from folks being too invested in a game that means much more to them than it does to others, and far more than it probably should to be healthy. With little recognition that the others might just maybe have a more balanced perspective. If this game ever gets in the way of my closest personal relationship, then I know what gets switched off first.

Your advice to me in the same situation would be laughable. "I love you dearly, but some internet guy say I should dump you because you deleted my game in an emotional reaction to something that caused you to lose your rag..." ? What a joke! I say laughable, and it is on here, but if one of my mates came out with such **** about dumping my wife over somethig like this to my face based on such paucity of knowledge of our situation, I'd very likely consider decking them. Of course they would likely know a hell of a lot more about it than what we know about this.

Now this guys situation may of course be completely different than mine. But you have no way of knowing that, and pontificating on the basis in such a void of knowledge is less than helpful. Internet sadly is full of know it alls quite happy to dole out solutions without having a clue about the problem. Partly maybe as it makes them feel better to be seen as some sort of a self appointed expert. Partly maybe as they project their own context onto one which may be completely different without any recognition of understanding that may be the case.

Anyone following such advice from such sources will be the ones who "get what they deserve". Poor fools. This ain't the place, and we are not the people. Games don't matter a jot compared to people. Ever.

But anyway I'm just another anonymous guy on the internet too, so none of this - any of it - really matters anyway. God help us all of it actually did. Just another opinion on an anonymous forum. Label with extreme caution. We all need to recognise that. Hopefully the OP does and is in a far better position to make a sensible decision for himself and the lady he loves - to the point he's made a commitment to marry - without heeding such superficial "advice".

My advice to the OP, fwiw: take on board the advice from here which is within the competence of the forum to provide (i.e. how to get your stuff back). Ignore the rest. Don't confuse which is which. Good luck to you both.

That's a whole lot of words to simply say you disagree with me, Sir Knight. Enjoy your high horse.

[Loromir]

So my fiancé was mad at me for a whole day basically and she had my login, while I wasn’t home she deleted every single character. I put in a ticket and have heard nothing yet. Of any of you devs see this please give me some assistance . Kennedyxrider is the account the main toons name is zkennedyz. It’s somewhat comical because she made one character named “her vengeance “ but man the stats are all wrong on it . I deleted it but this is no joke it is a real post please help me get my characters back I have already changed my password so this never happens again in the future. There is no way I’m starting the grind over so if I cannot get my character back you’ve lost a long time customer that has spent a reasonable amount of money on the game, I’ve been vip since 2009.

While I feel for you....but....this is all on you.

First mistake....letting your wife know your log in information.
Second mistake...possibly spending too much time on this game and not enough time with her. (I don't know if this is the reason for her rage deleting your toons or not...but I suspect it might be the case).

I hope you get your characters back....but you can't be mad at SSG if they don't accommodate you.

I believe there is a paid way to get your characters undeleted.

[Hawkwier]

That's a whole lot of words to simply say you disagree with me, Sir Knight. Enjoy your high horse.

Irony. Much?

[kanordog]

Also picking up on your comment, another wider problem is too many folks loving themselves a bit too much,

I never said he should love himself MORE than he loves his fiance. Please don't put words in my mouth.

...possibly spending too much time on this game and not enough time with her. (I don't know if this is the reason for her rage deleting your toons or not...but I suspect it might be the case).

I already assumed and asked.
OP states he plays only when GF is at work.

[Cantor]

Lane, I know we barely know each other, but I heard about you and Beth, and I was wondering...

Nice reference.

[kennedyxrider]

While I feel for you....but....this is all on you.

First mistake....letting your wife know your log in information.
Second mistake...possibly spending too much time on this game and not enough time with her. (I don't know if this is the reason for her rage deleting your toons or not...but I suspect it might be the case).

I hope you get your characters back....but you can't be mad at SSG if they don't accommodate you.

I believe there is a paid way to get your characters undeleted.

She knew my login because it was the same password as a few other things, and no I definitely do not spend too much time on the game and not enough with her most of the time I play is when she is working nights. She falsy accused me of something and then realized just hours later she was wrong. But she did this before she calmed down. She just knew it would make me mad because she knows how much time I’ve put in on the game over the last 10 years because I’ve told her. And I haven’t seen a paid way of you have a link I’d gladly pay them if they’d get my characters back.

[myliftkk_v2]

She knew my login because it was the same password as a few other things, and no I definitely do not spend too much time on the game and not enough with her most of the time I play is when she is working nights. She falsy accused me of something and then realized just hours later she was wrong. But she did this before she calmed down. She just knew it would make me mad because she knows how much time I’ve put in on the game over the last 10 years because I’ve told her. And I haven’t seen a paid way of you have a link I’d gladly pay them if they’d get my characters back.

Since you said you were a pilot I'm going to assume you know the diff between structural and non-structural airplane flaws then (a neighbor used to get his kicks taking his gfs up in planes that looked cosmetically like buckets of bolts).

You are describing a structural flaw, so like Alewony (sic) says, it might be best to evaluate before you get up in the air, with yourself and forbid, future tiny passengers, if you're gonna be able to stick the landing.

[C-Dog]

4 things are true...

1st) There are def ways to undelete characters - contact CS, they should be able to help you, and GL.

2) Everyone here jumping to judge whose fault this is has their head up a random orifice. NO ONE except you knows the full story, and, respectfully, even you may not be objective in your description, so judgements are blind (or worse!), and the advice given based on those is likewise.

iii) This does sound like a strong reaction, so SOMETHING is up, and quite possibly it has nothing to do with DDO. A long sit down, heart to heart might be in order. As a suggestion - you know your relationship, not I.

last) Strangers are not where you should be looking for support, or advice, except re the game. If "she" knows how to get to your characters, she might be able to read what you have posted here. (let that sink in...)

She knew my login because it was the same password as a few other things...

If you're not going to have a completely diff password for each site, a good option is to vary a password off a core, so if your "universal" password is "1234abCd", then your DDO pw might be "1234abCdDDO", or "1234DDOabCd" - something like that (altho' a less obvious permutation would be even more secure).

[kennedyxrider]

4 things are true...

1st) There are def ways to undelete characters - contact CS, they should be able to help you, and GL.

2) Everyone here jumping to judge whose fault this is has their head up a random orifice. NO ONE except you knows the full story, and, respectfully, even you may not be objective in your description, so judgements are blind (or worse!), and the advice given based on those is likewise.

iii) This does sound like a strong reaction, so SOMETHING is up, and quite possibly it has nothing to do with DDO. A long sit down, heart to heart might be in order. As a suggestion - you know your relationship, not I.

last) Strangers are not where you should be looking for support, or advice, except re the game. If "she" knows how to get to your characters, she might be able to read what you have posted here. (let that sink in...)


If you're not going to have a completely diff password for each site, a good option is to vary a password off a core, so if your "universal" password is "1234abCd", then your DDO pw might be "1234abCdDDO", or "1234DDOabCd" - something like that (altho' a less obvious permutation would be even more secure).

I don’t know how to get in touch with them these days I put in a ticket in game and outside of game and I got an email that my ticket is in but now news yet. And my password is Changed now but it’s not like there’s anything to delete except my shared bank

[kennedyxrider]

Since you said you were a pilot I'm going to assume you know the diff between structural and non-structural airplane flaws then (a neighbor used to get his kicks taking his gfs up in planes that looked cosmetically like buckets of bolts).

You are describing a structural flaw, so like Alewony (sic) says, it might be best to evaluate before you get up in the air, with yourself and forbid, future tiny passengers, if you're gonna be able to stick the landing.

Lol, yes I know the difference , and I get what you are saying. Man I started this thread mainly to get devs attention so as to maybe bring attention to my ticket so I can get my toons back

[C-Dog]

I don’t know how to get in touch with them these days...

Used to be CS_Alkaid, but s/he got promoted(?) to something else a while ago. Dunno... I hate to say it, but maybe contact Cordovan and ask him to forward? Or sim w/ CS_Alkaid (if s/he even checks that "CS_" inbox anymore?).

[kennedyxrider]

Used to be CS_Alkaid, but s/he got promoted(?) to something else a while ago. Dunno... I hate to say it, but maybe contact Cordovan and ask him to forward? Or sim w/ CS_Alkaid (if s/he even checks that "CS_" inbox anymore?).

I have also already pmed cordovan and still nothing from him either. It’s kinda sad the amount of money I’ve spent on this game the last 10 years and I cannot get any assistance at all or even speak to anyone. I even bought some points after the delete because the were on sale but still I can get no support. It is disheartening to say the least.

[kennedyxrider]

I have also already pmed cordovan and still nothing from him either. It’s kinda sad the amount of money I’ve spent on this game the last 10 years and I cannot get any assistance at all or even speak to anyone. I even bought some points after the delete because the were on sale but still I can get no support. It is disheartening to say the least.

It’s just frustrating that I cannot get in contact with anyone by phone text or email it’s like no one exist. I Pmed cordovan last week characters been gone since dec 30th and the same day hours later I put in a ticket,

[kennedyxrider]

It’s just frustrating that I cannot get in contact with anyone by phone text or email it’s like no one exist. I Pmed cordovan last week characters been gone since dec 30th and the same day hours later I put in a ticket,

And I’m thinking what if someone bought something and didn’t receive the product?? We should be able to call someone to help with the situation, I hope after this I never need to contact them ever again if I get my characters back. If I do not well, I won’t be playing anymore I just wish I could gift the left over Ddo points to a guildie before I leave I bought 200 dollars worth during the sale being hopeful I’d have my characters back soon.

[Aelonwy]

It’s just frustrating that I cannot get in contact with anyone by phone text or email it’s like no one exist. I Pmed cordovan last week characters been gone since dec 30th and the same day hours later I put in a ticket,

Just want to say I watched the Twitchstream with Cordovan today, the Weekly Wednesday thing he does and I'm pretty sure he said he just got back from a two week vacation yesterday. I don't know how many PMs he gets but if he's been on vacation for two weeks he probably has a lot to sort through and may not have even started yet.

[kennedyxrider]

Just want to say I watched the Twitchstream with Cordovan today, the Weekly Wednesday thing he does and I'm pretty sure he said he just got back from a two week vacation yesterday. I don't know how many PMs he gets but if he's been on vacation for two weeks he probably has a lot to sort through and may not have even started yet.

I am hoping this is the case, because I am reaching out, but not hearing anything back at all. So hopefully I’ll get some assistance soon.

[choco1212]

If she had hit you in the nuts, it would of hurt for a day, but she deleted your toons, which the hurt will linger longer. Clever Girl.....................marry her!

[speegs619]

i did submit one of those tickets, that one will undelete one character at a time, but as of now no one has responded.

Good luck with getting your toons back -- but it's going to be a while. I just submitted a ticket to have a toon undeleted last week, and as of today, someone has yet to respond to the ticket.

SSG's customer seems to be lacking right now for whatever reason.

[kennedyxrider]

Good luck with getting your toons back -- but it's going to be a while. I just submitted a ticket to have a toon undeleted last week, and as of today, someone has yet to respond to the ticket.

SSG's customer seems to be lacking right now for whatever reason.

Yea I submitted my ticket December 30th the same day the characters were deleted and crickets... hopefully only because of vacations