Oldschool-gamer looking for Guild on Ghallanda-Server for proper Teamplay (new to DDO

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-I'm born in 1982, played virtually every solo D&D/D20 PC-game, but I'm new to DDO (started 6-2019) and the only MMORPG I've ever played was Vanguard Saga of Heroes in ~2010 which was almost entirely a solo-run due to lack of active players
-I'm a SystemEngineer for Networks (basically a IT Network-Administrator), but due to health reasons (do to my combination of disabilities but also in certain areas highly giftedness I'm a so called 2e/twice exceptional) I'm currently retired and focus on learning Medicine and recovering from my BurnOut
-atm I'm playing a customized Lvl5 Halfling rogue (the first char I'm gonna stick to since he's much more effective than my first two chars were, which I only played to the char-Level 5)
-given you can recruit henchmans it looks like at least on solo/free to play-difficulty-Levels even my rogue is soloable, however I find this quite boring and not the point of Massive Multiplayer-games; what I experienced so far was for the most part quite disappointing (Spammer-Guilds, no teamplay, rushing etc.); but a certain guy helped my answer a few beginner questions and to troubleshoot my headset
-my playstyle in RPGs in general and DDO in particular is to try to do every quest in an area including the optional ones and discover/uncloak every part of the map - so in short I'd like to take my time and don't like rushing (even way back in Diablo1 or BaldursGate 1)
-I do have a (now) working headset
-I CAN play computer from 7pm to 1am (19h in the evening to 1o' clock in the morning Central European Time; not always DDO but possible)
-my favorite D&D/D20 version was/is 3.5
-atm I'm a free-to-play player, but given the right motivation I'm willing to spend a little money in DDO

Must haves for my Guild:
-proper command of either English or German (I'm german but understand english at native/C-levels, however due to lack of practice my english-speaking-abilities are lagging a bit behind)
-no perma-death (don't have time and nerves for that)

Optional but nice to haves for my Guild:
-proper roleplay (would be my first time in a MMO, but I'd like to try it out)
-Guild-members mostly in the adult range (20+)