I've been playing DDO for a few years now, off and on, with my wife. When we were new we started our own guild, not knowing anyone else who played, but we've never expanded beyond our own characters. We both have a couple higher level characters, though all still on their first life. I've been throwing around the idea with her of disbanding our tiny guild and getting on board with one of Sarlona's more established organizations.
Part of the desire is to be able to explore some of the raid content with a group that knows what they're doing. Bad experiences on other MMOs have made me leery of PUGs as a rule. I play largely for fun, and don't pretend to know a great deal about mechanical optimization, though my main (a Horc Barb) has been able to hold his own on EH and EE in a few quests, but running through the arcs (especially Gianthold) and getting the pre-reqs for the raid without actually being able to participate makes the experience feel incomplete, to say nothing of the amazing gear.
Of course, I'm also looking for a community. Other reasonably mature people that enjoy the game, folks that aren't afraid to request and offer help, and the opportunity to participate in guild events would all be awesome.
If anybody has any suggestions about the right guilds and people to approach, I would appreciate hearing it.