I was here then , and thats not how I remember it. The BYOH mentality was strong even then, but the LFMs said "bring pots". PUGing clerics were more common then than they are now. They did not have this aversion to healing others they do now.
Yes, DDO has just as many folks with FPS game history as they do with D&D history.
I dont remember it this way. Back then we played normal first, then hard, then elite. There was no elite BB so no one was demanding to play elite right off the bat. No one needed a trap monkey, though it was better to have one on elite. All of the quests where people could simply jump through or time the trap nowdays which existed back then, people did so in those quests back then too. People had evasion in heavy armor back then, so just about anyone who paid any attention to saves could do it.
MMOs need to cater to all styles of players. The ones who thought they could cater to one style and not cater to the others are the ones that died off a few years after opening their doors. DDO was actually BETTER at catering to all styles in the beginning than it is now.