I have a S+B paladin who has decent AC, decent PRR, high exceptional fort, high healing amp, some dodge, blurry, ghostly, displacement clickies, etc. The standard layout to avoid damage and survive to the best of my ability in situations where without it one would wither away in a few blows. On top of that, there's Overwhelming Crit and Sense Weakness and Momentum Swing and bastard sword and maximizing doublestrike and all that stuff one does to try to still contribute offensively as well as one can.
However, I also only have a standing intimidate of 65, 69 with greater heroism. While this seems to do the trick pulling in trash on epic hard (we'll see about epic elite trash, haven't tried it yet), it ain't nowhere near what is needed to really be a main tank on an end game epic elite raid boss (100+). When I look at all the feats and gear and extraordinary effort necessary to get to that point, I am massively turned off and don't want any part of it. I especially don't want it because it would involve gimping all the things I love about the character to begin with, which is defensive survivability with as little sacrifice of DPS as possible.
So my question is, does this type of build have a purpose to exist? Will I just go into epic raids and just get laughed at and booted, since it can't do what they consider "a tank role"? Is pulling epic elite trash and otherwise just being an overall survivable character a good-enough goal, or is it just pointless if you don't max intimidate and pull everyone, especially EE bosses, to you at all times?
I just remember in the olden days when people would max AC and it would be purposeless if they did not also max intimidate since they never did enough DPS to pull aggro away from anyone, therefore no one ever swung at them and their high AC was never an asset. But it seems the rules have changed with the new defensive layout of the game. Advice? Thanks.