Here are my rather defensively-oriented ideas for the "ditching the abishai set" path. I prefer armor/shield (-1 DC from no monk stance and drop from insightful wisdom +3 to +2) and a wizard level instead of the second monk level, so of course the armor and shield listed are irrelevant here.
I'm liking the idea of integrating 10/20/30 amp into the gear to free up both hands at all times, but of course just using a healing amp stick for the times you want to have a good aura is generally sufficient.
It's too bad we don't have Divine Augmentation IX in loot
Shield: Wall of Wood
Implosion setup:
Main hand: Lob stick +2 wisdom\greater spell pen IX
Off hand: greater evo focus
Bracers: Healing amp 10% of superior parrying
Ring1: +8 wisdom
Ring2: Tod cha+6, con+1, 20% amp
Boots: Large guild augment HP, +13 balance use expeditious retreat scrolls\spell every 5 min
Gloves: Purple Dragon Gauntlets: Strength +7, Insightful Constitution +2, Healing Amplification +30%
Belt: Belt of the Sun Soul: Constitution +7, Insightful Wisdom +2, Concentration +15
Cloak: Epic Cloak of Flames, +6 dex, good luck
Trinket: Holy Symbol of Lolth: Spellcasting Implement +15, Nullification +102, Radiance +102, Impulse +102, Exceptional Charisma +1, Exceptional Wisdom +1, Embrace of the Spider Queen / VP Ioun stone (archmagi for buffs)
Neck: Torc/Noxious Embers
Helm: MinII GS HP
Goggles: GS SP conc opp
Armor: Epic Cavalry Plate, -15% ASF or toughness