I wanted to post how I fixed my problem, in case any other people who are not tech savvy can help themselves. (this includes me, I am a tech idiot.)
My problem was that the lanucher could not find host at first and then it succeeded after 3 attempts. But it sat there are the world select screen and would progress no further.
Here's what I did.
I uninstalled and reinstalled the game
I then uninstalled and reinstalled the .NET framework 4 and all associated security patches
I ran a full system scan and cleared up any threats.
I uninstalled and reinstalled the .NET framework 1.1 and 1.1 Service Pack. After this, the launcher would go through 3 cycles of not being able to find the host, then it finally did. It then could not locate the world (Orien) for about 2 minutes and then allowed me to hit the "PLAY" button and connected me to the server after another 2 minutes. This long login allowed me to login twice and then stopped working on further attempts.
I modified the "hosts" file in the System32/drivers/etc folder. This idea came from the DNS shutdown of 6/16/12. I read online how to get around the problem with the DNS not updating by manually putting in several important DDO addresses into the hosts file. I deleted these "extra" web addresses and this finally fixed the problem completely. if you did not do the 6/16/12 fix, you should not mess with this file at all. It is located in Windows/System32/drivers/etc.
Thanks,