My first thought in reading the OP was that it was a trap and someone, somewhere was hovering with their mouse over the report button waiting for a reply.

I understand your desire to improve the game, I do not understand your arrogance in assuming your way is the only way.

Me thinks you might be seeing abuse so much because your are looking for it so hard in every multiclass that joins.

If 4 out of 6 people in a party want to run it fast and they other 2 don't who is being abusive by forcing the others into their playstyle?

From what I have seen of your posts, I think you would be a PIA to run with so determined to play the game your own way with zero flexibility to adapt to what the group wants over what you want.