It's hard to say goodbye...

[tazel]

So I'm looking for suggestions on how to leave a guild peaceably, and find a replacement.

I belong to a guild who is run by a very successful individual. But our personalites don't quite mesh, and I feel uncomfortable asking for help. When I do ask for help, or even offer it to newbies hired 'Just for me' as it was said to me, I get little to no response. I was recently taken to task about not putting 'hookpoints' on the guild ship, despite my only purpose in being made an officer is so that I could invite my alts to the guild.

I'm a daily player, but I know very little about all the tips and tricks that everyone else seems to have memorized. I just want a fun group to play with. I found some other folks that fit the bill, though they don't have as high a guild level nor the guild leader's expertise. I have a lot more fun running with them than i do my own guild members though, and I feel that is wrong.

So I am considering leaving my current guild simply because I'm not having *fun* with them, though my version of fun is probably different than everyone else's. Whether or not I join my friends' guild is up in the air, but I'm just looking for peaceable ways to leave the current one, and suggestions on what type of guild to look for in replacement. Should I go for a high level guild that is only there to give you ship access? Go with the low level guild for camaraderie? Is there a good middle ground I hadn't thought of?

Thanks for reading and replying,
Tazel

(PS: this is not a request for you to lobby your guild to me. If that's your only reply to my questions, please don't bother replying. I'm looking for suggestions of leaving behavior and what to look for in new guilds.)

[MsEricka]

Just tell them straight up why you want to go, your playstyle is different than theirs and it's making you unhappy.

[Adarro]

Disclaimer: I have the PR skills of a Drunken Desert Barbarian in a tavern brawl.

I'm with MsEricka. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to leave the guild on good terms.
If your goals and their goals are different, that's really all that needs to be said.

The sooner you do it, the quicker you'll be back to having fun, and there's a good chance you'll still run with any of those guildies you used to run with. It's a guild, not the mafia... well... most anyways

When I see someone I enjoyed having in the guild leave, I feel a little bad, but most they are just leaving for a better fit, and if it was the camaraderie, well, then a custom channel solves it. If it was a fellow runner, well, then I still run with em.

[geoffhanna]

Just tell them straight up why you want to go, your playstyle is different than theirs and it's making you unhappy.

This.

Thank them for their time and effort. If they loaned you anything valuable, return it. When it comes time to choose, leave as much of your renown with the guild as you can (and tell them you will be doing so).

Then leave, with your dignity intact. If you catch any grief then that is their problem, not yours, and you can still look yourself in the mirror and feel good about what you see.

[weirding]

Having hed people leave a thriving guild has happened to me aa few times. To people I liked and enjoyed playing with. In our case the guild changed into something they didn't enjoy playing anymore and logging onto ddo felt like a chore to them. We were unhappy but if they were not enjoying themselves it was the right call.

Hope that gives you a perspective from the guild reception end thet's not too overtly subtle

As for finding a guild, if there are a few you know that you like to run with send a few tells and see if, after a few runs, they can hook you up with an invite. The first place i would look in your case is your friends list.

[~BIGSTICK]

Sometimes it's just better to rip it off fast. Just leave the Guild or....if you have players in the Guild that you really enjoy playing with, just hang out with them. It's not like these guys can jump you in the darker parts of the Harbor. Now leaving a high ranked Guild with the perks of a nice airship. That's the chance you have to take, you may not get right in with another high ranked guild. Though part of the fun of being in a guild is trying to get those levels.

So don't sweat the "who's feelings" are going to be hurt. This is about the enjoyment you get out of the game. Hope things turn out ok for you.