As a tempest I usually let go with a volley of shots and the odd lighthing strike to follow. It's supreme DPS for 20 seconds. Then whatever survives will come to me for a quick slice and dice. And while I do the slicing and dicing others are free to join in. I seldom kite, unless it's a supremely dangerous group, like the 5 guardians in a Hound that I was kiting back and forth to keep them from going into the middle and a horc running after them with vorpals stabbing them in the back. Meanwhile a beholder and a flayer joined and I pew pewed that to death before it went into the middle and created a mess.
There are times to pew pew and kite and there are other times when you can simply let the hordes come to you. Lining up several targets in a row is a very nice tactics; like epic where you need to get the caster first so I stand there, shoot the caster thats dancing and hit everything in front of the caster in the meatwall. I usually get multiple lightning strikes from that.
There are of course the bad kiters; the ones who keep shoothing at some poor monster and running it in circles when its easier to have the group kill it (faster). My preferred tactic is to take agro before the critters hits the rest of the group and block as the critter comes to me while the rest beats it to a pulp. I also do that in ToD. I use my bow to keep pew pewing the both bosses (primarly Sully when he arrives and we take him down) and any Orthon that spawns in I snipe until they agro on me then I switch weapons for the kill.
I personally think your gripe is with those who simply can't kite well or use bow and CC weapons in a good combination. Melee is not superior in all situations and sometimes they work well in tandem.