Remember blind tells are fine, blind invites are rude

[cbj192]

^^ THIS. Keep doing whatever it is you're doing. Then, when they ask you where you are, tell them you're Risia coin jumping. When they act all confused, just say, "You invited me, so I clicked Yes. You didn't actually send me a tell and ask me to come along. I just figured you wanted me in your group so that you could monitor my HPs and SPs. You gave me no other information, really."

Makes me want to join the party and cast protection from evil instead of cure wounds. That would stop the blind party invites.

[silverraven]

Just to be the devil's advocate here. In any other MMO you have to blind invite to get groups. This is the only game I played that had a easy-group-button. I hate them but I just decline and move on.

[Combat_Wombat]

every mmo I ever played allowed you to talk to other players also making blind party invites rude in them as well

[picaisfun]

Blind Invite (Incorrect):
/invite Brian14

non-blind Invite (correct)

/t Brian14 Hey man, thinking of running though WW on hard, wanna come?

if (Brian14=Yes, /invite Brian14, post in social panel LFM)

I hate both. Maybe I'm just antisocial.

[TheMidnightMage]

The way to make them go away and never come back find the most annoying song that you can and then play it loudly on the PC and open the mic channel turn your speakers off (If you have it set to send from the PC and not speakers) then you hear nothing and they hear all the junk. HeHeHe

[Llewndyn]

But I haven't gotten any blind invites in a WHILE. When I used to get them I would join and pike until they kicked me, in which case we both win; they get the honor of having Llewndyn in their party and all of the groupies that comes with, I get free xp while taking the Browns to the Superbowl, usually with the mic placed expertly nearby. Great on corned beef and cabbage night!

I get tells ALL the time, but I tend to think of those as people realizing the uberness of my toons and only wishing to bask in Llewndyn's Patented Yellow Healing Secretions, and I bestow those with great consistency.

Other names for the healing aura I have used:

10. Llewndyn's Yellow healing Milk
9. Llew's Special crotch elixir
8. Pee
7. Llewndyn's Magical Golden Shower
6. Love Mist
5. HP Man-Spray
4. Llewndyn's Incap Stabilizer
3. Llewndyn's Regenerating Golden Chowder
2. Bringing the Light (in my pants)
1. Llewndyn's Snuggle Aura

You're welcome.

[TheMidnightMage]

Last week I was sitting around not doing much just right in the middle of a fragging boss fight using clickies jumping around and poof I can't see that daymn boss any more!! Thank You blind invite. So I accepted the invite HeHeHe Killed the darn boss and then ran Sands for the next 2 hours with the idiot begging me to drop. I politely sent him a tell letting him know how pleased I was with his invite. He told me a few choice words so I set him to ignore and continued questing. And no more random invites (While he was stuck as a party member.) LOL

[Tom318]

I found a new way to be irritated by them. I'd just rolled up a coin farming alt, had gotten off the ship, and was in the process of equipping my starter armor when I get hit with an invite. I click decline and politely /tell this guy that most players find them rude. That's when I noticed my dwarf is standing around in just her underbritches. Opening my inventory revealed my armor had vanished. Nice.

At least it was only starter gear instead of something I'd saved for twinkage.

Yea what is it with stuff that disappear for no reason? :P

[Musouka]

I must be running a stroke of luck. I have my WF FvS up to level 7 now, and yet to have received a blind tell or invite... maybe it's because most WF FvS are melee specced.

[FrancisP.Fancypants]

I just hit the 'no' button and forget about it, usually because I have the good fortune of getting blind invites to parties and guilds when I'm in a dungeon, right in the middle of a fight.

Someday I might hit 'yes', just so they can hear me vent my frustration at THAT THING THAT POPPED UP AND IS BLOCKING MY VIEW.

[arch0njw]

My use of squelching knows few bounds. Rude people. Idiots. Blind inviters. Foul-mouthed brats. People who have to type in all caps. Failure to understand the concept of party chat.

In the vein of "He loved the world except for all the people" (Men at Work, Cargo, Dr. Heckyl & Mr. Jive), "He loved the [game] except for all the [players]."

It encourages me to play only with people I know (personally). LotRO, on the other hand, seems to be totally awesome where partying is concerned. I think the fact that you can wander by someone working on something, or several of you can end up in the same place with the same goals, helps. On the other hand, the private dungeon instances in DDO are very nice when you don't want some gnat buzzing around constantly asking to be added to your group.

Nothing is perfect. That's why there's squelch.

[katana_one]

Since no one has mentioned it in this thread, I thought I would pop in and mention that there are a couple of options in the UI that can help address blind invites. They all have their pros and cons, so choose to fit your situation and preferences.

1) Run Anonymous. Open the Social Panel and click the little box that says "anonymous." You will no longer show up in the Who list, and people recruiting via the Who list will no longer see you. Down side? When you apply to an LFM, I believe you will show as "anonymous" to the party leader, who might decline you based solely upon that. This won't stop them from seeing you run past them in the marketplace, however.

2) Disable Party Invites (and Guild Invites). Open the UI settings and toggle Party Invites off. You will now auto-decline when someone sends you an invite. You will still get a *ding* and a notice in your chat window, so you won't miss any invites from people you know. This does not prevent you from sending your own invite, and it does not prevent you from forming/joining groups via the LFM panel. I might suggest turning off invites at lower levels, and turning them back on at higher levels (when people should know better). Downside - you will auto-decline invites that you might actually want (forcing you to toggle the invites back on and ask to be invited again).

3) Squelch. Definitely solves the problem. (Personally, I think it's a bit of an overreaction to a blind invite - some people just don't know better and didn't really mean any harm.) Downside - your squelch list has a limit, and each squelch only stops one character from sending you an invite.

4) Grief. Accept the request and ignore. Walk away. Pike. Play obnoxious music. Pretend you speak a foreign language. Amusing and satisfying for sure, but remember that the other people in party might not deserve this.

Your mileage may vary.

[Kmnh]

The necromancers are on a roll :P

[Musouka]

The necromancers are on a roll :P

******! I totally missed it.

[Daggertooth]

Just a reminder.... there is nothing wrong with inviting people to your group. The game was meant to be a social game, not a substitute lesson in etiquette for socially deficient people.

If you don't want to be bothered by people go into options and uncheck 'accept party invites'.... Please don't come onto the forums and start spouting off about what you consider to be game etiquette.

There is a list of people playing the game and a button to invite them for a reason. If this wasn't how the game was meant to be played there would only be 'tell' button.. and then after you've recieved a response, the invite button would appear.

A few loudmouthed forumites does not equate to the majority of people playing the game. Play the game and let others play the game. If you don't want an invite window interupting your 'opus magnus *** laude' solo encore with the raid boss, then do everyone a big favor and either disallow group invites or go anonomous. Don't come on here and start spreading the gospel about what is and what is not considered rude.

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to tell the difference between someone who sends one invite and someone who is repeatedly sending invites after you've declined the first time.

There is a list of characters who are online grouped by classes for a reason. So people can make groups and enjoy the game. Once again it doesn't take a rocket scientist to accept an invite, find out what the group is doing and then make a decision to either stay or go.

Please, if you are feeling the need for etiquette, go have a tea party. Stop spreading that garbage around a game that I am trying to enjoy.

[Daggertooth]

The blind invite thing is just another shabby attempt from uptight people trying to establish control over the game. Cant you just play the game? Every year you get the same tired people... starting out as complete noobs... (and I mean COMPLETE noobs), and then a year later they end up in the 'top end' guilds. And then its only a matter of time before they shamble onto the forums and start yammering on about this and that.

People play the game. They are not interested in learning or abiding by what you consider to be rude. Yeah we get it, your no longer a (COMPLETE) noob and now your in a guild so you dont' want to be bothered.... Good .. do everyone a favor and either disappear into your private channel or uncheck accept group invites. Don't come on here and start trying to establish protocal for an online video game.

People are here to relax and enjoy a game with other people around the world who have a similar taste in games. They see other characters in the game and in the list and they want to form groups and go questing. Trust me I've played this game six years. You WOULD NOT BELIEVE... how many times I've seen the same thing over and over.. Complete and total noobs.. I mean the REALLY annoying kind... and then a year later without exception they have their 'wings' and they are in top guilds spouting off on the forums about how they don't want to be bothered... Its just tiresome already.

[Raoull]

There is a list of people playing the game and a button to invite them for a reason. If this wasn't how the game was meant to be played there would only be 'tell' button.. and then after you've recieved a response, the invite button would appear.

Why would anyone accept a blind invite? I get blind tells all the time, and if I'm not mid combat I'll bother to reply to them that I can't make it (I've accepted one or two, but its really rare to get one when I'm not already doing something), but those tells include what they are doing.

"Hey, we're looking for healer for ToD, wanna join?"

Is a totally reasonable thing that I'd at least consider. (And probably the most common one I see, but I've been in Amrath frequently lately.)

"Join XXXX's group"

Is not. There simply is no information there that would make me want to accept it. Who you are is not really germaine to the decision, unless I actually know you... but its the only info you get with a blind invite. With a tell, you can have some concept what you're getting into.

I have no idea why anyone would accept a blind invite due to the lack of info. The pop up window just adds to the aggravation factor. Fortunately, while blind tells are reasonably common for me, it has been a while since I've gotten a blind invite.

[der_kluge]

I must be running a stroke of luck. I have my WF FvS up to level 7 now, and yet to have received a blind tell or invite... maybe it's because most WF FvS are melee specced.

Nah, it's because you're level 7.

And I've seen fewer blind invites overall, which is a good thing.

I still do get a fair amount of /tells from people, though.

[Schmoe]

Just a reminder.... there is nothing wrong with inviting people to your group. The game was meant to be a social game, not a substitute lesson in etiquette for socially deficient people.

If you don't want to be bothered by people go into options and uncheck 'accept party invites'.... Please don't come onto the forums and start spouting off about what you consider to be game etiquette.

Really? So the only way to prevent being spammed party invites from people I don't know, is to prevent party invites from all people, including my friends? Instead of encouraging courtesy, we should be encouraging isolation? That's like throwing the baby out with the bath water.

Please, if you are feeling the need for etiquette, go have a tea party. Stop spreading that garbage around a game that I am trying to enjoy.

-1

Please keep your ignorant trolls out of my forum experience. TYVM.

[countfitz]

What exactly is "blind invite"? And what would be "non-blind invite"?

There are a few "non-blind" invites that are acceptable. If you have put up LFG (the opposite of LFM) and someone invites you, well you were looking for a group and a group found you. If you /t someone on an LFM that has a "full" group because of a hireling and they need to dismiss it then invite you, that is a non-blind invite. If you are reforming a group, even a failed one that went poorly and you won't rejoin it, but never said that, or maybe even did, that is okay too. If you are scheduled for a guild raid, that is acceptable. Finally, if you are invited by a guildy and you are in a close knit or small guild, that is reasonable if not acceptable.