OK, thanks all. I think I get it now (those last three posts being clear and to the point).
Irinis - my existing bard has 2 levels of rogue. I'm considering LR for him, which would get rid of those two levels. Presumably as they were the first two levels I also get to redo starting stats too?
See now I'm into a whole new discussion about LR. I'll take that elsewhere.
Point being I'm not stuck on my existing bard at all. He can be changed, or I may even start again with a fresh one. This thread was to establish what build would acheive my aims and I think I've got there now.
Conclusion. Step forward Mr Weaving, please:
It seems that you have been living two lives, Mr Bard.
In one life, you are a warrior. You have a giant sword, which you use to kill the hypnotised audience of your mesmerising songs while they obliviously stand there, and then you go collect your XP, and all the way your Guild collects your renown.
The other life is lived at range, casting spells to stop your enemies dead in their tracks while your friends and co-workers slay them. You heal those same friends and co-workers should the spells not work, and you prolong the capabilities of the other magic users amongst them.
One of these... lives... has a future. One of them does not.
And I choose... to more or less ignore Mr Weaving and his attempt to force my hand, I'm a Bard and I insist on having it all! You could say, on the other hand, that I've listened to the Oracles and determined my own path that meets the goals of both lives: I will generate a new bard as a pure Spellsinger called, in the unlikely event that the name is available, Major Tom (as in, 'this is crowd controool to major tom...' never mind. I'll get me coat), and see how it goes, while continuing to level my gimped rog2/Bard to cap, before TRing into something that's built properly. Probably a pure Virtuoso with a dirty great two hander.
thanks everyone.