You have loot drop for you you got first dibs always period. Anyone who wants it better be willing to offer your WHATEVER you want in trade or coin.
This attempt to bully clerics into being mindless healing slaves with no reguard for thier own characters interest is frelling BS and needs to end.
To that effect I think the only answer is clerics become the only class able to actively harm thier fellow players. They should be able to use cause harm spells as readily as heal spells on players to allow any cleric feeling offended by being told what to do by the dime a dozen sword swinging muscle bound moron who keeps yelling heal at the ancient and wise cleric who is touched by the divine, he can end up dead ALOT faster and learn not to tell others how to play.