I have been playing DDO now for about 6 months and I am still working on getting my first character to 20. He is currently at level 15 (paladin) and seems to have hit "the wall". It is not terribly surprising, as i did not know what I was doing when I created him, but I have managed to get by (mostly soloing) until just recently. I am not looking for a bunch of build advice (I think I have figured out most of my problems and am correcting them with other characters), but rather I was hoping someone could give me a clue about weaponry.
I recently switched from sword and board over to THF in an attempt to boost damage (and seeing as I can't seem to manage a useful AC, even with the shield, for current quests anyways). Running around in the Demon Sands my current main weapon seems to be fine (+5 Holy Greataxe with Puregood). I tend to score between 35 and 65 damage per hit with it (these are relatively "normal" hits, not crits or smites). I thought this was pretty good. Then last night I joined a group doing gianthold rares and walk-ups. These guys were amazing. Everything they touched seemed to get paralysed and/or die in a couple hits. In comparison, if left alone with a mob I would whack at it 20 or more times before it would die. I had to leave the party out of sheer embarassment. I have no interest in piking. In the party chat one of the group members said that they do about 120 damage per hit on average. Again, these are all comparable level (at or about level 15). How is this possible? I can only hit those numbers with crits and smites. Even fully buffed I cannot approach those numbers with my "average" hits. Also, in the two walk-up quests that we ran, all of the mobs seemed to have DR for my weapon that I was just barely able to overcome (but still with a few yellow zeros floating by). In short, what am I doing wrong?