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    Default How I got "Blacklisted"

    Edit: I mistook a speed run for a careless group. I had never been in a group like that before and though they would finish preventing me from helping the guild complete the next day. I have apologized for not handling the situation in a better way and have learned new tips on what to do in the future. Edited this because it's over as far as I am concerned. I messed up, said I was sorry, and promised not to do it again. Thanks,

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    you can still dd out when harry is at 5% in part5
    no need to deny some help for the first 95%
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    Agreed...even when Harry is at about 10%...his HP's go down slow......simply find a safe spot which is not hard to do and recall out.

    Personally I just complete whenever I do a run unless we wipe....I don't know, recalling out to me just feels like cheating.

    Course if a 1-3 or 4 farm is up and it's the only thing going on I will join

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    Blacklisting the offender was the right thing to do.
    Leaving after part 4 should not be tolerated unless LFM stated farming 1-4 in advance.
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    If you can't trust a group to allow you to leave before completion when you've already stated that you have a guild run the next day... maybe it's quite alright to be blacklisted by them. There have been incidents of griefing by people hitting the altar too soon, and people who start part 4 without healers or songs at all might just go ahead and hit the altar when it's done. With the lag these days even leaving at 5% might be a problem, Harry might be dead already by the time you see him at 5% lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Irinis View Post
    If you can't trust a group to allow you to leave before completion when you've already stated that you have a guild run the next day... maybe it's quite alright to be blacklisted by them. There have been incidents of griefing by people hitting the altar too soon, and people who start part 4 without healers or songs at all might just go ahead and hit the altar when it's done. With the lag these days even leaving at 5% might be a problem, Harry might be dead already by the time you see him at 5% lol.
    Griefing, eh?

    Beginning of Part 5: "We'll be throwing a Ddoor when Harry is at 5-10% and hitting the altar right away, so leave then if you want to leave" (both spoken and typed in party chat)

    *Silence*

    Harry at 10%: "Ddoor is down, leave now if you want to leave" (both spoken and in party chat)

    *Silence*

    Harry at 2-5%: "Last chance to leave, say something because we're hitting the altar when he dies" (both spoken and in party chat)

    *Silence*

    Harry dies, we hit the altar.

    "***H I WANTED TO LEAVE! YOU'RE ALL A BUNCH OF ELITIST JERK ZERGER GRIEFERS!!1!11!1!" *insert more nerd rage here*

    Who's at fault here? Not saying this was the scenario in the OP, but I know I and the people I usually run with on Ghallanda give ample warning when we plan on hitting the altar right away. Sounds like the OP joined a zerg runand didn't know it. There's nothing wrong with going into the next part without buffs, if the people could fend for themselves and the run was going smoothly otherwise, then what's the big deal?

    Not to mention if you're any self-respecting bard you have enough UMD for Teleport scrolls and could just port yourself back to Meridia when Part 5 Harry is at 5% to ensure you get out on time.

    I would have blacklisted you, too.
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    Sry if I don't understand but why are people leaving right at the end? - I have not gotten there yet

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fejj View Post
    Sry if I don't understand but why are people leaving right at the end? - I have not gotten there yet
    So they can farm ingredients without going on the 3-day raid timer.
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    Thanks - now I see

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    Imo you agreed to do a full run if it said so in the lfm, which would most likely included a ddoor at the end message, so recalling out was bad form....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Visty View Post
    you can still dd out when harry is at 5% in part5
    no need to deny some help for the first 95%
    I didn't think of that. I'll do that next time provided I can get in a group. It won't happen again.


    I just don't think my actions were worth people whispering everyone on thier list about me. I know it happened because I got whispers from friends asking why people are saying to sqelch me. It's not like it was my 1st time running with these people, I have run HoX and Shroud probably 4-5 times with the leader.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krag View Post
    Blacklisting the offender was the right thing to do.
    Leaving after part 4 should not be tolerated unless LFM stated farming 1-4 in advance.
    Really? So you would chance screwing over your guild with a pug? Just curious? Good to know there is no grey area with you.


    And it's not like I do this all the time. First mistake = blacklist? That's bs IMO. I would love to hear from someone actually in the group. I doubt that will happen though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Valindria View Post
    Really? So you would chance screwing over your guild with a pug? Just curious? Good to know there is no grey area with you.
    I want to quote myself for emphasis here:

    Quote Originally Posted by Sirea View Post
    Not to mention if you're any self-respecting bard you have enough UMD for Teleport scrolls and could just port yourself back to Meridia when Part 5 Harry is at 5% to ensure you get out on time.

    I would have blacklisted you, too.
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    Wouldn't you rather be squelched by the horrible pugs that don't listen? I know I would so I wouldn't have to hear/party with them again.
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    Leaving for in game reason when being the only bard or one or two healers is especially bad. If you where so worried about it you could atleast have stayed and buffed them before the boss fight with songs etc. The bard constitutes such a large portion of the DPS. The only reason you are accepted into a shroud run as a bard is so that you can use songs in part4 and 5.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sirea View Post
    I want to quote myself for emphasis here:
    I can umd teleport and have ddoor on my bar. I didn't think of any of these things. All I thought was, there is no way they are going to give me enough time to get out and I told the guild I would run it tomorrow, so I panicked and left. I am not saying it was the right way to handle things, and now I have learned other ways to deal with it.

    I guess I am just asking people to give me a break. Whispering people in my guild with "Sqelch Valindria" and nothing else for a 1st time offense seems excessive. It's not like I have multiple capped toons. I have 1 main and 2 alts that get limited paly. I pug a lot and would enjoy not being blacklisted.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Xezno View Post
    Leaving for in game reason when being the only bard or one or two healers is especially bad. If you where so worried about it you could atleast have stayed and buffed them before the boss fight with songs etc. The bard constitutes such a large portion of the DPS. The only reason you are accepted into a shroud run as a bard is so that you can use songs in part4 and 5.
    Really? Then how come people jumped into part 4 without waiting for the songs?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Valindria View Post
    Sorry to anyone who was angered by my leaving early from the shroud group.

    1. My guild is planning completing tomorrow night.
    2. Someone started part 2/3 before everyone was done looting.
    3. Someone started part 4 before my bard songs.
    4. People went into part 4 while the healers were still in the water getting SP back.

    Now ask yourself. Would you want to stay in a group knowing the guild wants you to help out tomorrow night? I didn't trust the group to let me D Door out before clicking the alter so I left. Everything was clicked before the entire party was ready. So that is why I left. Hope you can understand.

    If you feel this is an act of never playing with me again, there is nothing I can do about it. I was whispered after I left saying I was blacklisted from everyone in the party and their guild. I hope this is not the case.
    You list 2-4 like they are bad things.....

    Thats SOP in just about every shroud run I'm on now a days.... Were there any real Problems?

    If you had such a terrible time running that shroud with those people and that guild, why are you worried about them blacklisting you?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Impaqt View Post
    If you had such a terrible time running that shroud with those people and that guild, why are you worried about them blacklisting you?
    I bet it isn't so much that the Op is concerned, but that the Op is concerned their guild is now blacklisted. Actions of one player after all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Valindria View Post
    I can umd teleport and have ddoor on my bar. I didn't think of any of these things. All I thought was, there is no way they are going to give me enough time to get out and I told the guild I would run it tomorrow, so I panicked and left. I am not saying it was the right way to handle things, and now I have learned other ways to deal with it.

    I guess I am just asking people to give me a break. Whispering people in my guild with "Sqelch Valindria" and nothing else for a 1st time offense seems excessive. It's not like I have multiple capped toons. I have 1 main and 2 alts that get limited paly. I pug a lot and would enjoy not being blacklisted.
    The people in that group didn't know it was a first-time offense. For all they knew, you do that to all your groups.

    If you'd just gone into part 5 and helped out, thrown yourself a Ddoor or a Teleport when Harry was at 5%, the group probably wouldn't have minded (or they may not have even noticed). As a bard, you had the tools available to you to avoid this whole mess, regardless of whether the party was zerging or not.
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