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[mrdude19952]

When you lead a group and need more people you can go to the social pannel and click the "who tab" but please also check "show me only players looking for group" in that tab. If you invite some random person you are setting yourself up to get cussed out or raged at. This just happened to me five times in a couple minutes, twice by the same person.

[Shishizaru]

When you lead a group and need more people you can go to the social pannel and click the "who tab" but please also check "show me only players looking for group" in that tab. If you invite some random person you are setting yourself up to get cussed out or raged at. This just happened to me five times in a couple minutes, twice by the same person.

In my opinion, it's bad form all around to send blind tells like that. If you're the leader and you are looking for more members, use the Grouping tab, not the Who tab. Or at the very least (i.e. you are really really impatient), limit your tells to people hanging around the entrance as they MIGHT be looking to run the quest.

[mrdude19952]

In my opinion, it's bad form all around to send blind tells like that. If you're the leader and you are looking for more members, use the Grouping tab, not the Who tab. Or at the very least (i.e. you are really really impatient), limit your tells to people hanging around the entrance as they MIGHT be looking to run the quest.

I agree, but if some kids want to do that then i just want them to atleast check the show only lfg box, all 5 times i got blindly invited and i politely informed them on what not to do and I raged horribly at the guy who did it to me again.

[Woody00]

You play a healer. The anonymous box is your friend. If you keep getting blind invite report them or come up with your own form of vengence.Like this.

[Atoro87]

Really Op? Relax. Or squelch. "raging bad" is worse form than a blind tell, which is harmless.

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[markhoge]

I agree with everything that has been said above.
UNFORTUNATELY, you are preaching to the choir here.
The people who are doing the blind invites do not understand that they should not be doing that AND are NOT reading the forums.

[mrdude19952]

You play a healer. The anonymous box is your friend. If you keep getting blind invite report them or come up with your own form of vengence.Like this.

This was on my level 8 monk (Crazydamage of Orien), i would understand more if i was playing my healer.

[7-day_Trial_Monkey]

blind invites = bad

blind tells = no problem

Nobody should worry about sending tells to people who are not currently in a quest, even if they are not flagged lfg.

I always do that when leading a group and people often say yes. And those who don't politely say 'no thanks'.

Just make sure you word the request nicely, such as:

"Hello there, we are going to run XXX on hard, interested?"

[DavionFuxa]

7-Day sums up my opinion, but I will add that a blind tell for a party invite request should:

-Be clear, concise, legible, and readable.
-Not necessarily have to be checked for spelling and grammar, but make do without slang, Engrish, Leet, or anything else.
-State the amount of characters needed to fill the party if applicable
-Be given ample time to be received and read

[katana_one]

... The anonymous box is your friend. ...

I prefer to un-check "accept party invites" in the user interface, that way people can still see me online and send /tells (and I can still join and start LFMs) - they just can't invite me until I want to group up.

[Woody00]

I prefer to un-check "accept party invites" in the user interface, that way people can still see me online and send /tells (and I can still join and start LFMs) - they just can't invite me until I want to group up.

I never really thought of that. I have a habit of wondering why those three partys looking for a healer in the lfm did'nt accept me before realizing that I had anon checked. Might start doing the party thing though. Thanx for the tip.

[Loki]

In my opinion, it's bad form all around to send blind tells like that. If you're the leader and you are looking for more members, use the Grouping tab, not the Who tab. Or at the very least (i.e. you are really really impatient), limit your tells to people hanging around the entrance as they MIGHT be looking to run the quest.

Blind invites are bad form; polite tells are perfectly acceptable. Generally accepted group formation etiquette is:

1st - Post an LFM
2nd - Ask party members if they have any guildies/friends who want to join
3rd - Send a single polite tell and wait a reasonable amount of time for a response before inviting another player (If you aren't the leader, don't send tells unless you have explicit permission to do so)

And please, for the love of all that's holy, remember who you've sent tells to. I don't mind being asked to join a group, but being asked to join a group 3-5 times gets you reported for harassment.

[Woody00]

I always find it kinda funny when I get multiple tells to do a quest/raid from different members in the same group.

[Sweyn]

Hi Welcome

[GrandpaMunster]

When you lead a group and need more people you can go to the social pannel and click the "who tab" but please also check "show me only players looking for group" in that tab. If you invite some random person you are setting yourself up to get cussed out or raged at. This just happened to me five times in a couple minutes, twice by the same person.

I couldn't agree more. I myself am really new to the game and I've already come to the point that I find this insanely annoying. I keep quiet for the most part and I had one guy invite me to his group and guild 5 times before he got tired of it. I didn't say anything back to him I just let his invites expire. I wasn't sitting outside any adventure/questing zone I was sitting outside of the AH. The character isn't one that I would consider as a in demand toon either as he was simply a level 4 elven fighter. The guy never bothered once to send a tell to attempt talking to me once. After I finished at the AH he ran by me and I got bombarded with another couple guild/group invites before I joined another group to help them with kobold assault

I don't accept blind invites as a rule of thumb. Anyone who is so indiscriminate with their selection of players is typically incompetent and far more trouble than they're worth. I certainly intend to visit the social panel to put an end to this nonsense from now on.

[Sweetsoul86]

Blind invites have always been the bane of my existence and the only way I EVER accept is if it's from a guildie because more than likely they just wanna talk over voice chat rather than type in guild chat.

Blind tells are perfectly acceptable as they don't pop up on the middle of your screen and distract you while you're doing something else and are easily responded to. I frequently go anon on my bards and clerics because it's gotten to the point where I've almost given up explaining to people that it's impolite because every time I politely inform someone that they shouldn't send blind invites I get the A**hat who decides to go on a swearing binge about how it's only my problem and no one else is bothered by it but me when I know for a fact that's not the case. If someone sends me invites more than once however, I do send them a tell asking them to stop and letting them know I do not accept blind invites and that they are considered a social faux pas on DDO.

Grandpamunster about the blind guild invites, the easiest ways to stop this is to A) join a guild (not for everyone I know but it can be very rewarding) B) Make your own guild of just you because then you're in a guild and can't get invites ^_^

[vVAnjilaVv]

If u are doing something really important and do not want to be bothered u can also go to your options panel and uncheck accept party invites. Just make sure to recheck when u wanna get in a group.

[Johalva]

blind invites = bad

blind tells = no problem

Nobody should worry about sending tells to people who are not currently in a quest, even if they are not flagged lfg.

I always do that when leading a group and people often say yes. And those who don't politely say 'no thanks'.

Just make sure you word the request nicely, such as:

"Hello there, we are going to run XXX on hard, interested?"

14+7 you have passed your diplomacy check.

"yo bro, come grup wiht us in XXX" 1+7 critical fail!

[HumanJHawkins]

14+7 you have passed your diplomacy check.

"yo bro, come grup wiht us in XXX" 1+7 critical fail!

Nah. I would prefer if people who like to write like that NOT learn to be more polite. The last thing I need is to get a tell saying "Crucible Elite lvl 11-14. Good group so far. Interested?" Then join that group. Then have the guy say in party chat "you cun swim. I'll be teh suck fi ya don doit."

[pasterqb]

You play a healer. The anonymous box is your friend. If you keep getting blind invite report them or come up with your own form of vengence.Like this.

You forgot to include using Grease Clickies. I have one on my cleric incase some idiot zerger yells at me to heal them while they are hiding behind something or halfway across the map but could be used in this case as well. Some dont appreciate a well placed grease clickie