Serious Breach of Invite Etiquette

[samthedagger]

So I was logged on to an alt today, just to run a few quick errands. He's my haggle character so I pretty much just use him to sell stuff. Anyway as I am on my way to a vendor, I get a random invite from someone I've never heard of. Now this happens to me all the time (unfortunately). I don't know why but I seem to attract them. I decide to join the group momentarily just to inform the party leader that it is rude to invite people blindly when they are not flagged as LFG or asking to join the group. I then promptly leave the group and go about my business. That's usually the end of it. Sometimes I receive a tell apologizing, or them telling me they accidentally invited me, but I usually don't even get that. However this guy chooses to send me a tell saying "F--- You." Well if I thought you were rude before, now I know it for certain.

Look, I don't mind if you are new to MMOs and don't understand proper etiquette, but when someone informs you that a practice is rude, the most you need to say to them is that you are sorry for interrupting them. I try to be as polite as I can about this but it happens to me at least once a day and I am getting so sick of it. It's great that DDO is f2p now and we can get a lot of new players. And it's a much better game than it was back in 2006. It's why I came back and I'm glad to be back. But can we get some kind of tutorial for new players that explains a little bit of proper etiquette for forming groups and how to use the Social Panel? We've got the grotto in Korthos to show them the basics of gameplay. But I think we really need something that offers a crash course in manners. Just because you are on the internet anonymously does not give you the right to be an a--hole.

[Lorien_the_First_One]

I'll bet you 1000plat that player will never visit the forums. He knows far too much to come here and listen to what other people know.

[Rasczak]

It's becoming my common and annoying practice of being anon and turning it off before joining an lfm. Annoying since friends don't know I've logged on so I have to turn it off when logging in, turn it on....look for a group if I need to, turn it off join, turn it on.

I would use the ignore invites but it's harder to get to easily and sometimes I want an invite :/

The things we do because rude idjuts never die

[Bacab]

I'll bet you 1000plat that player will never visit the forums. He knows far too much to come here and listen to what other people know.

Was gonna say something...but this ^^ sums it up perfect. Though I kinda wish you woulda "GMed" him and got him suspended for a little while or atleast warned.

Him getting suspended WOULD have gotten him onto these forums where he woulda made a "OMG TURBINE IS UNFAIR" post. Then about 60 people woulda told him to f**k off and quit being a turdmuffin.

Though I am sure he would have left out the part where he did a "blind invite" and then told you to "fu** off". His story would have been more like "I was teaching some noobs how to play and I figured I would invite this noob bard and teach him, but he instead told me....etc...etc...I am a victim...agree with me...so here I am posting about it..."

Anyway, Lorien ya beat me to it...but yeah...he is right. More than likely that guy is "2 uber from pwning WoW or w/e to need to lurn from us."

And to Raz...aint it bad that we have to change our behavior to avoid being harassed? In FFXI it was still in bad form to blind invite UNLESS you knew the person and their LFM flag was up...then is somewhat acceptable.

Also to OP, next time you get a blind invite...just accept it and immediately share "Heyton's Rest"and "Sacrifices" and a "Misery's Peak" etc...and ask if anyone has Elite open for you because you need the favor to buy masterwork throwing daggers for your thrower build.

~Bacab

[Talon_Oakenleaf]

I really love it when I am already in a group and people start sending tells "you want to do ------ quest?" Let me think about my response,,,,,,,,,,,,,,"Um i'm in a group already duh"

If people are gonna search in the social panel for a cleric, look to see if they are already in a group, or even want to be in a group. Odds are you probably need to get a hireling

[Razcar]

You should had reported him. Since you had a tell he might had gotten a three-day ban. We don't need players like that.

[Lleren]

The "report harrasment" option when you click on their name is your friend, when you get tells like that.