Competely innappropriate...

[techwench]

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she is probably the typical kid you do not want joining your party,,she talks a lot..lol...she has a guild...she plays with mostly like minded kids,,who talk to much etc.......anyway, please excuse my lack of sentence structure,
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This is what I'm interested in.

When you say "she has a guild", do you mean she created her own guild with a guild charter, or do you simply mean she's a member of (someone else's) guild?

If it is the former, the burden falls upon the guild leader - your daughter/you - to deal with the officers' actions/conduct. Only officers can update the message of the day, and only the guild leader can promote someone to an officer.

If, however, it is the latter...see the part about officers and the guild leader. Report the guild to Turbine, and send a message to the guild leader about the message. Oh, and pull your daughter out of that guild.

[vVAnjilaVv]

Whilst I do not agree with someone being tricked or manipulated into seeing something they do not willingly want to see......or do not know about.....I see quite a bit of hypocrisy and naivity in the OP.

I can understand u are a caring parent with many burdens which come with being so...however u have already consented to letting ur child play a game rated Teen which states in the rating the game has Blood, Violence, Alcohol References and Suggestive Themes.

If anything at all, u are giving ur child access to a game that is if anything a catalyst towards porn...not a deterrent. Blood, Violence, Alcohol References & Suggestive Themes < Porn? That really does not make a whole lot of sense.

I am not judging u on ur parenting or anything, but if u want ur child to not have access to any of that stuff, than u would not allow them on the internet at all, which in itself is probably 30-50% sexually themed.

[transtemporal]

ahh i wouldn't agree with you on that one ! Sounds like she has good parents, who keep an eye on her.. most important she told her dad about the issue so he could handle it ! well done dad

I'm simply making the point that good parents or not, what we think our kids are exposed to and what they're actually exposed to are not the same thing. The best you can do is equip them to deal with it, which it sounds like the op has done.

[Schwarzie]

PS: Yeah that's messed up. I guess at least its not the scheister video links the germans keep sending me!
/tramatized

It is your own fault if you open Accels or Abenteuers Links.

SNIP

How old is your daughter?

I see quite a bit of hypocrisy and naivity in the OP.

Probably. whenever i read about such topics i ask myself where the parents where if they are so sentivie about what their childs see in the Internet.

than u would not allow them on the internet at all, which in itself is probably 30-50% sexually themed.

Could you please give some proof for this numbers? (Yeah i know there is none, and the real number is way lower, but i want to let your search for it )

[Eladiun]

Whilst I do not agree with someone being tricked or manipulated into seeing something they do not willingly want to see......or do not know about.....I see quite a bit of hypocrisy and naivity in the OP.

I can understand u are a caring parent with many burdens which come with being so...however u have already consented to letting ur child play a game rated Teen which states in the rating the game has Blood, Violence, Alcohol References and Suggestive Themes.

If anything at all, u are giving ur child access to a game that is if anything a catalyst towards porn...not a deterrent. Blood, Violence, Alcohol References & Suggestive Themes < Porn? That really does not make a whole lot of sense.

I am not judging u on ur parenting or anything, but if u want ur child to not have access to any of that stuff, than u would not allow them on the internet at all, which in itself is probably 30-50% sexually themed.

^ I tend to agree with above statement. My sister's kid is 12, she's mature for her age. However, I'm constantly explaining to my sister's friends why GTA is not age appropriate material and they seem genuinely shocked. There is a huge M on the box pay attention to what your kids are doing... All her friends are also watching hard R movies and South Park so all bets on what explicit images they have seen are off. If I had the internet when i was that age I would be a hell of a lot more twisted than I already am...it took too **** long to download from BBS at 9600bps

[Aerniel]

I Y Q 2. <3

PS: Don't tell my wife!

Why not? The yelling is what makes it fun because I have cameras all throughout your house and you know that because you looked right at the one over your toilet and smiled.

/cough....

[Gol]

Subjective opinion: That really sucks, man.

Objective opinion: Your daughter is interacting in an unfiltered internet environment (that is, an MMO). It's going to happen if you allow her to participate in that environment. Either restrict her computer use or be prepared to deal with the consequences. Your post clearly indicates you were not ready for this reality.

[Mentor61]

OK...before the bad parent flames...I TRUST my daughter!!! she is a GOOD kid
my daughter plays ddo...she is probably the typical kid you do not want joining your party,,she talks a lot..lol...she has a guild...she plays with mostly like minded kids,,who talk to much etc.......anyway, please excuse my lack of sentence structure, i am so angry.....
trying to compose myself
I know it was probably a teenager, but someone posted a porn link to my daughter's guild's lmessage of the day.....she booted him instantly, but still saw GAYPORN!!
Is there anything I can do?
I reported,,,no screenshots etc.....have a name if any wants it sent to them

I posted a few months ago about a kid/adult friendly guild ...will be actively persuing soon...lmk if anyone is interested

geez who would have thunk...right?My question is what the hell is your kid doing online if that's offensive?And what do you expect subjecting your kid to strangers with the online anonimity?Only a bad parent would do that.If you have a kid and let him roam free,be it in game or out,you are exposing him / her to this.Blame nobody but you buddy.

[Lleren]

Whilst I do not agree with someone being tricked or manipulated into seeing something they do not willingly want to see......or do not know about.....I see quite a bit of hypocrisy and naivity in the OP.

I can understand u are a caring parent with many burdens which come with being so...however u have already consented to letting ur child play a game rated Teen which states in the rating the game has Blood, Violence, Alcohol References and Suggestive Themes.

If anything at all, u are giving ur child access to a game that is if anything a catalyst towards porn...not a deterrent. Blood, Violence, Alcohol References & Suggestive Themes < Porn? That really does not make a whole lot of sense.

I am not judging u on ur parenting or anything, but if u want ur child to not have access to any of that stuff, than u would not allow them on the internet at all, which in itself is probably 30-50% sexually themed.

Videogames are not a crime, Corruption of a Minor is, or whatever they call sending underage girls porn nowadays.

[GBOB]

as a Parent of a 13yo girl who plays DDO, I feel your pain. There are a couple of takes on this, but I would recommend that you report them to Turbine. It might not do anything, but at least you know you did what you could.

The next, and the hardest pill of all, is to discuss what it means with her. It is the hardest moment in any parent's life when they figure out their kids are not 4 anymore. And from what I am discovering myself, that realization doesn't take place until they are about 13. My suggestion is to accept that she has encountered the real world and be open about it. Tell her that there are morons on this planet, and how we cope with them is a reflection of ourselves. Morons like the officer in that guild should be punished, and if that can't happen, ignored.

Discuss with her options to avoid situations like that is the future. Discuss why would she go to a URL of dubious nature and not ignore it, or better delete the MOD. She should know what the guild links look like.

Discuss it with her and respect her intelligent. They are smarter than they appear, and with access to the internet, not nearly as naive as I was at that age. Give her the tools (object reason) needed in today's world.

Not sermon, just a thought, and best of luck in the future.

(In case anyone cares, I restrict my daughter's DDO access to when someone is home, and she can only be in parties when I am in the party. I trust her to comply with my rules.)

[Robi3.0]

Videogames are not a crime, Corruption of a Minor is, or whatever they call sending underage girls porn nowadays.

My thought as well.

[Asialee]

I'm simply making the point that good parents or not, what we think our kids are exposed to and what they're actually exposed to are not the same thing. The best you can do is equip them to deal with it, which it sounds like the op has done.

Now i agree with ya

[vVAnjilaVv]

Videogames are not a crime, Corruption of a Minor is, or whatever they call sending underage girls porn nowadays.

I know the difference ok...but the fact of the matter is the parents are giving thier children catalyts towards this kind of thing...not deterents.

Sorry..truth of the matter is they should be shouldering a large chunk of the blame here...if not all.

Really all I can say here, is if u do not want ur child exposed to that kind of stuff...take away thier internet.

Don't forget tho, thier are laws against tying people up and keeping them locked in a basement too.

[Mystyque]

Uhm, if she's a minor, that guy could be in serious trouble.

Not a smart move. A vindictive parent could have him registering as a sex offender for the rest of his life.

Well i dont want to call you an idiot but your not very smart you cant become a sex offender for posting gay porn on a website. Someone could talk dirty to another character in this game and you cant get charged criminally for it.

#2 I hate to tell you this OP but I have to judge your parenting skills first you let your daughter play and MMORPG where anyone and I mean anyone can play this game and now with F2P anyone can play. There was an article dont remember where about prisons letting inmates play DDO!!! that should give you first warning there.

#3 there are programs out there that filter pornographic websites on your computer why was this not put in place and why was your daughter instructed not to click on links that people post in an online game.

I mean if your gonna cry about her seeing porn at least take the preventive measures to block it before letting her play this game or others like it.

SO what lesson was learned take preventive action before you let your child play this game suck as blocking adult related websites with a good program.

[vVAnjilaVv]

Wow...can't handle the truth huh...shame.

Thanks for the neg rep btw...it's shows who the real hypocrites on these forums are.

Truth of the matter is all u forum celebrities with ur almighty repbars dishing it out like ur some kind of overlords don't mean a thing, because in the end judgement is given by unbiased people.....who know ur are no more correct than I am...so have at it.

Try thinking about this for a while.....there are more ways to molest someone than just sexually.

Kind of like how u try to r*p* my privelage to think and speak freely by tryng to intimidate me with ur uber long rep bars.

/sarcasm on
I bow so humbly to your almight rep bar, u are my icon
/sarcasm off

Get a life

[Eladiun]

Wow...can't handle the truth huh...shame.

Thanks for the neg rep btw...it's shows who the real hypocrites on these forums are.

Truth of the matter is all u forum celebrities with ur almighty repbars dishing it out like ur some kind of overlords don't mean a thing, because in the end judgement is given by unbiased people.....who know ur are no more correct than I am...so have at it.

+1 to counteract it... It's the state of society today. We live in a blame society why take responsibility or teach you kids when you can throw blame around.

[SquelchHU]

It is your own fault if you open Accels or Abenteuers Links.

I loled. Carry on.

[Melis]

I only have a suggestion for preventing things like this in the future. I personally use OpenDNS to filter Internet traffic on my Internet connection. You can set it up to block porn sites and other questionable material. I've children of my own so I share your concerns.

http://www.opendns.com/

It's free, by the way. It's also quite easy to set up.

[Paul.E.Morph]

I used too many big words in my post?

I'll sum it up then:

Therefore there is only one final action here:

You, as a parent must be careful of your daughter's on line gaming. In this case be aware of who she has in her guild and I might suggest that you instruct her to not promote anyone without your approval.

Resolution: Sorry but it is up to you as a Parent to prevent this.

[Gum]

OK...before the bad parent flames...I TRUST my daughter!!! she is a GOOD kid
my daughter plays ddo...she is probably the typical kid you do not want joining your party,,she talks a lot..lol...she has a guild...she plays with mostly like minded kids,,who talk to much etc.......anyway, please excuse my lack of sentence structure, i am so angry.....
trying to compose myself
I know it was probably a teenager, but someone posted a porn link to my daughter's guild's lmessage of the day.....she booted him instantly, but still saw GAYPORN!!
Is there anything I can do?
I reported,,,no screenshots etc.....have a name if any wants it sent to them

I posted a few months ago about a kid/adult friendly guild ...will be actively persuing soon...lmk if anyone is interested

My suggestion would be to reinforce core values, but realize she may have or will see worse. It is what it is. Good blessings to you.