LFM, Sorjack's, and an Apology

[paleodian]

I am a member of a very small (3 people) guild, and two nights ago our “leader” put up a LFM for some of the Reaver’s quests and Sorjack’s as we were attempting to complete the requirements for our Dragontouched. No one in the guild was familiar with the quests and as the group filled, one person who joined said that he had run them before and would be happy to act as guide.
To make a long story short, the party got their butts handed to them, and the person who offered to be guide was booted. It was not because of the guide that the party tanked, for he was being very sincere and doing the best he could. The party tanked because most were not listening to his advice, letting their ego’s run the quest, and doing whatever they wanted without teamwork or communication. However, the leader of my guild (my guild.....after that incidence that was really hard for me to say) flamed this guy so bad I was appalled. He began screaming at him and blaming him for the failure, and then booted him in mid-sentence as he was offering an explanation of the quest. Afterwards, he re-posted the LFM and ran the quest on CASUAL, all the while boasting about how much easier it was without the person he booted, never considering it was easier because he WAS ON CASUAL. It was all I could take.
I am posting this to an open forum because since this occurred, I have felt terrible about what was done. I should have spoke up as the flaming was occurring, and expressed how wrong it was to treat this person in that manner but I didn’t. Shame on me. I did not get your name, but if you are reading this, please accept my humble and sincere apology for the way my guild treated you. It was wrong on so many levels that I cannot even comprehend it. Just know that not everyone in the party agreed on your treatment, and as of today, I have left the guild. I will not associate or be associated with anyone or any group who thinks it’s OK to treat others in this manner.
We all play this game because we enjoy it, and for the most part we do enjoy it. However, there are those who are overly competitive, and have larger than life ego’s to overcome that can make it a nightmare at times. I am new to DDO, having joined in OCT. 2009, but was fortunate enough to pick up a mentor who is a top notch player to show me the ropes. Because of him, I know that for the most part, things will usually go Ok in a quest, but every once in a while, they go south and you tank. Do you blame someone else in the party for your failure? No, you pick up the pieces and move on, learn from the experience, and become a better player for it, hopefully paying forward the knowledge you acquired from the experience to others.
I still have a lot to learn from this game, and know that through trial and error and the gracious advice of those who have played much longer than me I will learn and become better, but I would never blame or flame another for my mistakes. So once again, if you are reading this, please accept my apology. It embarrasses me to no end to think that there was a guild name hanging over my head that you could associate with such rude treatment of others. Not everyone in this game is a jerk. Some of us actually play because we love it, and understand that when we fail, we only have ourselves to blame.