Thanks for the Decline - no, really!

[Phidius]

I admit it, it was a mistake to send the party leader "Thanks for the decline" when they opted to actually press the Decline button when Stryde (11 Cler/5 Rang/1 Monk) requested to join a Gianthold Tor group with all classes selected.

The leader replied with "Thank yourself for gimping your toon" (or something similar), to which I simply laughed at. While this wasn't the first time Stryde has been declined (nor the last, I hope), it was the first time someone had actually clicked the button instead of just leaving me in Limbo until the group finally filled.

I was simply trying to let them know that I appreciated the courtesy of the decline, and in my naivety failed to anticipate that they would take it as anything other than a genuine appreciation for their courtesy.

So, if you ever hit the Decline button when a member of the Renderguard guild requests to join your party, please keep this in mind - my reply with "Thanks for the decline " is truly coming from the heart (I added the smiley to show no hard feelings).

[Thelmallen]

LOL, that's awesome, Precious!

I actually had a guy decline my reincarnate when they had ranger, monk and rogue selected for the group. I told him he should take them off his LFM if he didn't want those character types in his group and his response was that he just didn't want someone who was trying to be all three! He and I subsequently had a discussion about what the 'exploiter' build is and why it rocks. I don't think he believed me. <shrug> Takes all types.

edit) Woot! 1000 posts!

[Garth_of_Sarlona]

I prefer people to decline. I hate waiting on the end of a limbo stick. Normally if people don't accept my request within 10-15 seconds, I log off and change characters.

I hate it when I'm soloing the same quest they had the LFM up for, and I'm right near the end, and they finally accept my invite and I end up in a party of pikers I can't leave, or even worse they make me wait for them to enter the quest before I can complete.

Garth

[Thelmallen]

I prefer people to decline. I hate waiting on the end of a limbo stick. Normally if people don't accept my request within 10-15 seconds, I log off and change characters.

I hate it when I'm soloing the same quest they had the LFM up for, and I'm right near the end, and they finally accept my invite and I end up in a party of pikers I can't leave, or even worse they make me wait for them to enter the quest before I can complete.

Garth

I wish we had an ability to retract a join group as occasionally I ask to join then change my mind about the quest or see someone accepted into the group that I'm not interested in running with.

[Quikster]

I wish we had an ability to retract a join group as occasionally I ask to join then change my mind about the quest or see someone accepted into the group that I'm not interested in running with.

Yet another reason to have 2 accts

BTW OP you are never welcome in any of my groups. We only accept real n00bs not wannabes like you

[Calebro]

I love when I'm left waiting in limbo, only to be accepted 5-10 minutes later when the group still hasn't filled, while I'm already solo'ing a different quest.

Now you have to wait for me to finish before I can drop your group.

[thekamurai]

I love when I'm left waiting in limbo, only to be accepted 5-10 minutes later when the group still hasn't filled, while I'm already solo'ing a different quest.

Now you have to wait for me to finish before I can drop your group.

I second this, lol

[Steiner-Davion]

I love when I'm left waiting in limbo, only to be accepted 5-10 minutes later when the group still hasn't filled, while I'm already solo'ing a different quest.

Now you have to wait for me to finish before I can drop your group.

Serves them right!

[Tharlak]

I wish we had an ability to retract a join group as occasionally I ask to join then change my mind about the quest or see someone accepted into the group that I'm not interested in running with.

/signed.

[MsEricka]

I've actually gotten in the habit of sending a /tell to people first before declining them when they try to join guild event LFM's.

I simply say we're waiting for more guild members to join the group and if we need more I'll open the LFM to the public. I usually try to invite the people that tried to join already though.

[Quikster]

I've actually gotten in the habit of sending a /tell to people first before declining them when they try to join guild event LFM's.

I simply say we're waiting for more guild members to join the group and if we need more I'll open the LFM to the public. I usually try to invite the people that tried to join already though.

Nice call. I try to do this, but often when my lfms get close to full i get bombarded with requests. Figure if im almost full and you dont get in that i ran out of room

[Tyrande]

I wish we had an ability to retract a join group as occasionally I ask to join then change my mind about the quest or see someone accepted into the group that I'm not interested in running with.

There is actually a way to retract that join request. Just take a hireling into the quest that you almost finish. They can't hit [accept] and have you joined the party because you're already in a group with the hireling.

[EddieB_TBC]

I wish we had an ability to retract a join group as occasionally I ask to join then change my mind about the quest or see someone accepted into the group that I'm not interested in running with.

Oh yeah I'm right there with ya on that one.

[Belwaar]

Kind of goes back to the Rangers only use ranged weapons and don't know how to effectively kill mobs...remember that arguement back in 2006?

I had a guy decline me because he said two rangers was two too many and we wouldn't kill anything...I LOL'd. Then 20 minutes later he had a LFM up and asked me if I was still interested...they had wiped...

[MorningStarSE]

Kind of goes back to the Rangers only use ranged weapons and don't know how to effectively kill mobs...remember that arguement back in 2006?

I had a guy decline me because he said two rangers was two too many and we wouldn't kill anything...I LOL'd. Then 20 minutes later he had a LFM up and asked me if I was still interested...they had wiped...

Well maybe its the first time i say it here and i'm sure some will agree and other will just hate me to say that but it is not everyone who knows how to play a video game. They might find it entertaining but they will always end to suck at it. It is even truer in ddo since the game play isn't just like other mmo and where character customization is surely the most limitless i've seen in multiplayer game. Some will stick to templates, other will explore.... And don't talk about character archetype...

[MysteryNotes]

I prefer people to decline. I hate waiting on the end of a limbo stick. Normally if people don't accept my request within 10-15 seconds, I log off and change characters.

I hate it when I'm soloing the same quest they had the LFM up for, and I'm right near the end, and they finally accept my invite and I end up in a party of pikers I can't leave, or even worse they make me wait for them to enter the quest before I can complete.

Garth

Totally agree.

Gotten this a few times, they don't even bother to decline.
20 minutes later i usually get a "Your request to join <Insert name>'s group has been declined because the party is full"

I put them on my blacklist because they're annoying.
And do the same to them when they try to join my groups.

[Chai]

I admit it, it was a mistake to send the party leader "Thanks for the decline" when they opted to actually press the Decline button when Stryde (11 Cler/5 Rang/1 Monk) requested to join a Gianthold Tor group with all classes selected.

The leader replied with "Thank yourself for gimping your toon" (or something similar), to which I simply laughed at. While this wasn't the first time Stryde has been declined (nor the last, I hope), it was the first time someone had actually clicked the button instead of just leaving me in Limbo until the group finally filled.

I was simply trying to let them know that I appreciated the courtesy of the decline, and in my naivety failed to anticipate that they would take it as anything other than a genuine appreciation for their courtesy.

So, if you ever hit the Decline button when a member of the Renderguard guild requests to join your party, please keep this in mind - my reply with "Thanks for the decline " is truly coming from the heart (I added the smiley to show no hard feelings).

LOL

People who believe there are like 6 viable archtypes and the rest of all builds are cr@p need to just stop making groups / raids. It only serves to embarrAss themselves and provide entertainment for the rest of us.

Their reaction to what you said only shows what kind of mindset they were in when they were making the group.

[ddaedelus]

So, wait... if I request to join a LFM, and the group leader does not respond to my request.... nothing happens? The request just sits out there indefinitely?

[Thelmallen]

So, wait... if I request to join a LFM, and the group leader does not respond to my request.... nothing happens? The request just sits out there indefinitely?

Yup. Until the leader declines or the group fills.

[ddaedelus]

Yup. Until the leader declines or the group fills.

Thanks. That really is ridiculous. It should time out or something. I generally don't pug so I've never been exposed to this (and the few times I have, have been direct invites). Why would a party leader just let a request hang without responding in some way or another? That just baffles me.