I agree with you partially..
I didnt see in your orignal post anywhere that the whole group was spamming you with tells. That can be a bit annoying im sure but half the time im sure they arent telling one another..hey im gonna send ace a tell..hey im gonna send joe a tell. The group was probably sitting there for awhile and they party was just trying to get a cleric. I dont agree with it being "bad behavior" to send a person thats not in a party already a tell simply asking ..interested in Tor? Ace: no thanks...end of story.