The joys and woes of being "female" in DDO

[Kalari]

^_^ running on a idea the good Doctorwhofan gave me I decided to start a thread about the silly things in game we girl gamers have put up with. Now mind you I know that there is no way we can keep this strictly girls only so im putting it for guys who have played females to post to. Cause lets face it even guys who play female characters (specially if they are cute elves) have had the random player who falls over their feet to impress them.

funny things that have happened to me in game so far:

1. first week in had offers of marriage proposed, had several high end items just given to me. Oh man did I get teased ummercifully from some of my former guild mate for it. But I cant blame them when someone just gives you a pearl of power X item that says something.

2. Had men insist on telling me the ins and outs of not only DDO (which at first I didnt mind because this is technically my first mmo ive tried others couldnt get past the building part cause the graphics were ugly and just couldnt do wow cause too many people from another game I knew played and they were too hardcore ie call me up middle of the night even though I have a kid to play types). But then tell me how to play PNP which ive played for well over 10 years now just cracks me up.

3. Will make all sorts of dude references then apologize when they hear my voice "oh wow your a girl..wait really your female.." hehe still makes me laugh

4. bad awful terrible jokes I mean some where I couldnt even force a laugh and almost felt bad cause you could tell they were trying but ugh just painful attempts at humor.

5. the ladder thing and I know some of you guys dont think we girls know what your doing, but their isnt any real reason to linger on a ladder while were climbing up above you so stop it already LOL. Not like ya can see anything anyway.

Also the funniest thing I had happen when I first started with kalari I had no idea that when you removed your robe you were pretty much standing around in brown skivvies. Well I was in the market place took off my robe to try another and must have had the skivvies on too long cause a guy walked up and bowed to me Lmao that was the best.

K guys and gals im sure you have your own tales, and heck there might even be some guys who had to deal with crazy gamer chicks. This thread is open for all your tales of fun and woe.

[dixcyn04]

For those of us who are guy gamers who HAVE played the random female toon. I got one...

My female barbarian was the character in this scene.
My mic was literially broken and my wife who plays with me, made the party.
She informed them that Linmei (my toons name) would not be on mic.
Halfway through the quest, I realized my laptop has a builtin mic, so I switch the settings.

I micced in.

We started the next quest in the series (Tangleroot) and two guys dropped. One sent a tell to the wifey saying..god, thought she was a chick.
Can't look at the game straight right now cause its a dude.

I laughed.

[Kalari]

For those of us who are guy gamers who HAVE played the random female toon. I got one...

My female barbarian was the character in this scene.
My mic was literially broken and my wife who plays with me, made the party.
She informed them that Linmei (my toons name) would not be on mic.
Halfway through the quest, I realized my laptop has a builtin mic, so I switch the settings.

I micced in.

We started the next quest in the series (Tangleroot) and two guys dropped. One sent a tell to the wifey saying..god, thought she was a chick.
Can't look at the game straight right now cause its a dude.

I laughed.

lmao now that is priceless. I will admit I was shocked when I first played and a friend of mine who plays a drow female bard talked on mic. I didnt know it was his alt so when I heard his voice come threw I was speechless. Then I said politely "now that just isnt right, cute drow female with your voice coming out of her" we both laughed for abit after that one.

On a Tempest spine run I had a guy who I guess had his fill of guys who play females. I hadnt talked much during the quest cause I was trying to keep up, though a few of the people in group knew I was female. One of my friends flirted with me and the guy says "be careful that may look like a female wizard but I see that wand in her pocket." so I said over mic "I keep my wands in my backpack. And my wands are of the magic kind not any other kind of equipment thanks." After that he couldnt apologize enough, my friend laughed so hard over the mic. Hehe so I guess there are a few non believers out there that girls play ddo.

[Uska]

Well in AoC things are worse one poster told of a group that demand that his(female character) strip off her armor and preform for them a simulated act the player refused and was killed. Good grief is that game filled with idiots as most people in the thread defend the actions of the offenders.

[Ciaran]

Well in AoC things are worse one poster told of a group that demand that his(female character) strip off her armor and preform for them a simulated act the player refused and was killed. Good grief is that game filled with idiots as most people in the thread defend the actions of the offenders.

The forums are pretty out of control over there. Not that I'm a fan of censorship, but I've seen some deplorable and nasty things said that would've led immediately to a thread deletion and ban over here. We're talking WAY out of line.

Hmm, small wonder the forums there are densely populated with diehard PvP types. Not to say all PvP people are like that, because they aren't, it's just that PvP seems to be a magnet for maladjusted miscreants.

I pretty much ignored General chat on Zug after watching people bash the French for a solid hour because some people were speaking French in General. By and large I think the community here is well behaved, mature and respectful.

[Uska]

The forums are pretty out of control over there. Not that I'm a fan of censorship, but I've seen some deplorable and nasty things said that would've led immediately to a thread deletion and ban over here. We're talking WAY out of line.

Hmm, small wonder the forums there are densely populated with diehard PvP types. Not to say all PvP people are like that, because they aren't, it's just that PvP seems to be a magnet for maladjusted miscreants.

I pretty much ignored General chat on Zug after watching people bash the French for a solid hour because some people were speaking French in General. By and large I think the community here is well behaved, mature and respectful.

I agree, funny thing about AoC right now is you can still post right now even if your account is inactive.

[Zenako]

Well the pendulem can swing both ways. There are some female players I know who have male characters in game. Some with really "girly" voices. Seeing a he-man warrior (usually a human or dwarf male) with that voice can be just as much an issue to some as the "cute elf" with the deep baritone....

Now as a fan of the RP part of RPG's, even MMO's, sometimes a character concept works better as a female character. My Paly and Ranger and Fighter are all male. I have some female characters clerics and arcanes. (stereotyping...yah sure...but it works). I also have a male dwarf cleric and a male drow bard. The WF I have, who knows or cares....

Most notable instance of an issue was almost a harrasing type one. Was running solo, Rest for the Restless IIRC on my cleric early on. It was late at night, and some male character kept coming up and sending tells and invites and then kept hopping about and doing the shadow thing next to me while I was recharging in the Inn. (between succesive runs...) Was tempting to accept his invite and begin a conversation and see how long the group lasted once he heard the voice behind the toon....

[MistressMayhem]

Well the pendulem can swing both ways. There are some female players I know who have male characters in game. Some with really "girly" voices. Seeing a he-man warrior (usually a human or dwarf male) with that voice can be just as much an issue to some as the "cute elf" with the deep baritone....

LMAO! I did this to my guildies! All my male guildies love to run their female drow & elf characters (for visually appealing reasons no doubt). Being somewhat feminine myself, I tend to run pretty girly looking characters, so that is what they are used to seeing me on. One day I decided to pull my super butch, mo-hawked, human male barbarian out of retirement for a guild shroud run. They freaked every time I spoke or ran by one of them. They said it seriously creeped them out and forbade me from ever running that character again. Ha ha! Take that boys!

The character I built to replace the one mentioned above is a female dwarf barbarian, who's appearance is as feminine as I believe a female dwarf barbarian can be. I was running out to PoP to meet up with a pug group and once I got there, the male dwarf fighter in the group grabbed my character and began to dance with her. He continued the whole quest "in character" telling my character how hot female dwarf fighter-types are and how he is ready to pledge his undying love to her. I'm sure he meant it all in fun and fun it was. The party and I laughed so hard we were practically crying the entire quest.

[dragnmoon]

Will make all sorts of dude references then apologize when they hear my voice "oh wow your a girl..wait really your female.." hehe still makes me laugh

Dude... But I call everyone Dude........

[Arianrhod]

Dude... But I call everyone Dude........

I like the "bro" comments

Of course, I refer to everyone by the gender of the character they're playing, even if I know they don't match. Keeps things simple. So guys, if you don't want to be called "she" and "her", consider yourself forewarned

[DoctorWhofan]

Somebody just called me god instead of goddess. Ok, I was on with a male toon, but i had I mic!!!

For playing male characters, I pick the name first, then what they are second. Jennysmith is a female, Sousake is a male. Healbotatron, a WF, is the only Gender confused. After people say "a WF cleric?" they say, "A girl plying a WF?" It does seem silly, though.

[Kalari]

lol id have liked to see his face when you did Zenako must really deflate a guy when they find out a female their falling over is a dude hehe.

And to the AOC thing kinda glad I dont play mmos like that cause its one thing to avoid flirters its another to be blantantly harrassed and there is no way id pay to deal with that ****.

[VonBek]

5. the ladder thing and I know some of you guys dont think we girls know what your doing, but their isnt any real reason to linger on a ladder while were climbing up above you so stop it already LOL. Not like ya can see anything anyway.

I play a fem drow caster character. I've caught my buddy keeping his toon below mine on the ladder, or while swimming. If I call him on it, he usually tells me : "shut up - your spoiling it when you talk".

/heartfelt sigh.

[Bekki]

I have Several Female Characters...

And it is always Kinda Funny to see the reactions...

I was on with my female rogue And had someone make some Jokes
about "making a Pass at my Rogue...

I typed /emote "slaps (offending Party) in the face for being rude..

Laughed and ran off...

I just didn't have the Heart to tell "Him"
It Was a GUY driving the female Halfling Rogue!

[Kalari]

Hehe guys thanks for the responses, bleh its late about to go to bed but seen some funny stuff. Haha Vonbek I knew it thank you for that confirmation to. LOL normally most guys deny it they are like no you just jumped on the ladder first. But ive watched some guys climb down who did so first just to peek up hehe. I know I shouldnt spoil the illusion though

Funny thing happened the other night did vons 4 with my cleric, which means having to strip off her armor so she can make the jumps (yeah Im working on her jump skill) I get it done go to the tavern to finish up the chain and you would think I had did walked in, in something sexier then brown skivvies lol. Im sorry I still dont get whats so sexy about underwear that looks like paper bags. Can we get some corsets in this game? hehe.

[Rog]

Hehe guys thanks for the responses, bleh its late about to go to bed but seen some funny stuff. Haha Vonbek I knew it thank you for that confirmation to. LOL normally most guys deny it they are like no you just jumped on the ladder first. But ive watched some guys climb down who did so first just to peek up hehe. I know I shouldnt spoil the illusion though

Funny thing happened the other night did vons 4 with my cleric, which means having to strip off her armor so she can make the jumps (yeah Im working on her jump skill) I get it done go to the tavern to finish up the chain and you would think I had did walked in, in something sexier then brown skivvies lol. Im sorry I still dont get whats so sexy about underwear that looks like paper bags. Can we get some corsets in this game? hehe.

we used to have g strings but for some reason the dev team took them out. now if you look closely on the chick you do the first side quest for cant remeber her name it somthing about a necklace being returned before goodblades she still wearing the g string they forgot to update her.
i got a kick out of it.
lunarsong

[Kalari]

LOL I think there would be a lot of guys with nose bleeds if we women ran around with cute voices and g-strings.

Still contemplating making a rough looking dwarf dude and speaking in a group just to hear the reactions lol Im leaning towards making him chaotic for the Pink weapons!

[Riddikulus]

5. the ladder thing and I know some of you guys dont think we girls know what your doing, but their isnt any real reason to linger on a ladder while were climbing up above you so stop it already LOL. Not like ya can see anything anyway.

This is the main reason I have a couple nice elf/drow female characters, they are a lot easier on the eyes... it gets old real fast looking at a dwarf butt.

I'll typically stay off VC when playing the females to help keep them in character, only problem is one is a rogue. The barb learned real fast to not run ahead of the rogue... he got nailed in a couple particularly nasty traps in Foundation Elite.

[ShaeNightbird]

I had someone in one team give me grief when I told the group I am female ( No VC, that would have been proof positive), because he didn't believe I actually was. He seriously thought I was a guy running a female character. I told him several times, and he kept saying "Yeah, right. I know you're a guy." There were some folks in the same team who know me well, and we were sending some funny tells about it back and forth!

I've also had my share of people hitting on me, but I find that a minor inconvenience. Same problem in RL, you know? It translates. I guess the attitude I have the most trouble with is when someone finds out I'm female, and all of a sudden, their personal preconceptions of what a "female is supposed to be like" come into the mix, and I either get treated like I don't know what I'm doing, all of a sudden and need to be told how to play, or somehow become inconsequential.

These are the folks who never team with me again.

[Talon_Moonshadow]

Anytime someone hits on my female Dwarf, I can bet it's a sailor.

And no one ever hits on my female WF for some reason........she even wears pink.