Paladins should do less DPS than Fighters they get better saves and spells. Seriously if you don't think self healing, wand usage, better saves, and pally auras are beneficial compared to a small disadvantage in DPS then build a fighter, it is called trade offs.
What you are wanting is irrational, you cannot have better DPS than a Fighter and still be balanced given the other things Paladins can do. It just doesn't make any sense.