Oh my GAWD the stuff i'm reading about the recent merge is incredible.
My comment thought or suggestion is this.
When the merge happens
1. Slow down there may be problems at first, but we've all gotten through other problems in DDO before (mod 3 remember)
2. Ask first. If you're having a problem with all the new folks and the weird/strange/different way they do things. Don't get mad Ask a question
no matter what server i've been on usually if you ASK the group or person concerned, they will consider your problem and either change it or explain why it can't/won't be changed and then you know for next time (Loot rolls anyone)
3. Think it through. It may just be the new surroundings have us rattled.
4. Let's show the others how civilized folks can handle this (yes i'm even including dwarves and that growling biting lady who posts here all the time)