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Cordovan
05-07-2014, 02:23 PM
As some of you may know, back in February we updated the Community Guidelines (https://www.ddo.com/en/community/community-guidelines) to be more clear, and to be more explicit about a handful of longstanding practices to make sure that they were described in detail. After considering your feedback, there were a handful of rules that we ended up - not - including in the final Community Guidelines.

From the post last February:


11. Polls and Petitions.
While we consider this spam, we felt we should explain why. First, several pages of /signed and /unsigned doesn’t really offer us much in the way of actionable feedback. Second, they usually turn into something unpleasant. Instead we recommend a well-considered suggestion posted in the appropriate area that would allow for meaningful contributions and opinions to be shared by all members of the community.

23. Goodbye and farewell.
We appreciate that players have made meaningful personal connections while playing our games and we also appreciate that sometimes it’s time to say goodbye and move along to something else. We feel that heartfelt goodbyes are best done in private with personal messages to those who you will miss and who will miss you, not as missives to everyone who happens to read your post. Posts of that nature typically do not end well and as a result we will close or remove goodbye/farewell threads.

24. Inactivity.
The DDO forums and web sites are aimed at providing a valuable service to players of Dungeons & Dragons Online, and as such are meant to be used by active players of the game. Moderators may remove forum access to inactive players at their discretion, if it is deemed necessary to promote the overall goals of the web site. (One example would be if a player is no longer playing the game and using their community account to violate the community guidelines.)

If it becomes necessary in the future to add these topics to the Community Guidelines, we'll do it then. Otherwise, the things these rules were meant to address can be dealt with using a different or already-existing rule. I fully expect that this stuff will be a non-issue. Thanks!

In recent days, several community members have raised the idea that we should explicitly spell out our longstanding practice of closing Goodbye threads. Let's talk about it! Keep the following things in mind:

1. The question is not whether we will continue to close goodbye threads. This is not up for debate. We have never allowed these threads to remain open, and will continue to close goodbye threads with a message wishing the person saying goodbye the best of luck in the future, and with a hope that they return to the game soon.

2. The rule's inclusion is not meant to "let us ban people" who say goodbye. Any infractions from goodbye posts would be made in context, based on the intention of the thread itself. For example, saying "I quit because Dev X suxxors" would be eligible for infraction, not because it's a goodbye thread, but because it's insulting. We very rarely take disciplinary action against people posting goodbye, although if the community wished us to be more harsh in this regard, please let us know.

3. The main reason for the rule's inclusion, and the reason it was initially presented as a possible revision to the Community Guidelines, was to be more explicit about why we close goodbye threads, so people (who read the rules, and everyone reads them, right? :) ) can understand why we take the action we do.

I initially was hesitant to remove the Goodbye rule, but was swayed to do so based on the large amount of community feedback on the subject. Since it appears that some members of the community disagree with the initial decision on the matter, I'd like to take a day or two to re-consider it.

Please remember that this thread does not give folks carte blanche to discuss moderator activity or specific actions taken against people in the past in a general way. Stay on target! Thanks.

Luxgolg
05-07-2014, 02:29 PM
You could possibly just make a sub-forum and move them there in a non-reply environment after leaving them live for say 24 hours. Clean out the garbage, leave it open for discussion for a short period. And put it in a fare-the-well section.

danotmano1998
05-07-2014, 02:34 PM
I think the current policy is fair.

You close them when you get around to it, and infract only those that deserve it for breaking other guidelines.
Simple and understandable.

So long as it's posted that they will be closed by moderators, I see no harm in it whatsoever. Carry on!

redspecter23
05-07-2014, 02:36 PM
You could possibly just make a sub-forum and move them there in a non-reply environment after leaving them live for say 24 hours. Clean out the garbage, leave it open for discussion for a short period. And put it in a fare-the-well section.

That's similar to my thought as well. If it's not necessarily the goodbye that's destructive, but the replies that come after. Let people say their goodbye in a format that doesn't allow replies. The community has been notified which is a good thing for friends or guildmates that might not know the player was leaving and you remove the potential for the disastrous replies that always seem to follow.

I suppose there is some negativity involved with having an entire subforum devoted to people leaving the game. Doesn't seem like something you'd want on an official forum.

At any rate, I agree that in general, people posting goodbye threads shouldn't be punished with infractions. It wouldn't matter anyway if they are actually leaving. The respondents would be the ones leaving themselves open for infractions, which begs the question, Is a goodbye thread just a troll thread in disguise? Is it there only to serve as a means to trap other people into gaining infractions? If this is true and you could call it a troll thread, then it should be stopped immediately.

I guess I'm still on the fence. There is some good from goodbye threads, but they always devolve into something that would be worthy of closing the thread.

Thumbed_Servant
05-07-2014, 02:40 PM
We should be able to say goodbye in the forums. Some players know many people and saying goodbye one by one could be difficult. As long as the posters follow the other guidelines. The rules as you have them now seem fair and balanced. Closing the threads after a period of time is done to keep them from degenerating and I understand that. I don't think you need any changes.

Roland_D'Arabel
05-07-2014, 02:42 PM
Close them. Let them be posted, moderate any inappropriate postings with infractions and or post/thread removal.

Some folks have a large group of acquaintances on a server or across multiple servers and they feel the need to say goodbye for legitimate reasons in a forum where a good deal of their friends etc. will see the thread; so let them do so and close and then close the thread.

Amend the guidelines to reflect this policy.

Krell
05-07-2014, 02:42 PM
I always thought goodbyes should be directed to people that know you. Guild sites, guild chat, PM's to forum friends, /tell friends in game, etc. Posts in general chat always struck me as public venting. It is rarely just a goodbye to everyone I've played or talked with on the forums so people don't wonder why I'm not around. It is more often I'm quitting because I don't like these things about the game, or because of something that happened to me. It seems to me that the current process of closing them after a short time is reasonable, compared to just deleting them. If someone is really looking for a forum buddy, they can do a search and see they left.

patang01
05-07-2014, 02:43 PM
As some of you may know, back in February we updated the Community Guidelines (https://www.ddo.com/en/community/community-guidelines) to be more clear, and to be more explicit about a handful of longstanding practices to make sure that they were described in detail. After considering your feedback, there were a handful of rules that we ended up - not - including in the final Community Guidelines.

From the post last February:



In recent days, several community members have raised the idea that we should explicitly spell out our longstanding practice of closing Goodbye threads. Let's talk about it! Keep the following things in mind:

1. The question is not whether we will continue to close goodbye threads. This is not up for debate. We have never allowed these threads to remain open, and will continue to close goodbye threads with a message wishing the person saying goodbye the best of luck in the future, and with a hope that they return to the game soon.

2. The rule's inclusion is not meant to "let us ban people" who say goodbye. Any infractions from goodbye posts would be made in context, based on the intention of the thread itself. For example, saying "I quit because Dev X suxxors" would be eligible for infraction, not because it's a goodbye thread, but because it's insulting. We very rarely take disciplinary action against people posting goodbye, although if the community wished us to be more harsh in this regard, please let us know.

3. The main reason for the rule's inclusion, and the reason it was initially presented as a possible revision to the Community Guidelines, was to be more explicit about why we close goodbye threads, so people (who read the rules, and everyone reads them, right? :) ) can understand why we take the action we do.

I initially was hesitant to remove the Goodbye rule, but was swayed to do so based on the large amount of community feedback on the subject. Since it appears that some members of the community disagree with the initial decision on the matter, I'd like to take a day or two to re-consider it.

Please remember that this thread does not give folks carte blanche to discuss moderator activity or specific actions taken against people in the past in a general way. Stay on target! Thanks.

I say include it, it makes things clear, no matter if philosophically it's implied and covered by other rules. Look at it like this

In legal texts I think it's important to spell out that murder is illegal, even if you could technically state that any rule covering 'lethal form of violence' should do it. People love to argue philosophy but in the end if you make it clear, however redundant, it's better than having to rehash the fact that it is covered by the nature of how goodbye threads sorta spiral out of control. Overstated is always better than implied.

Enoach
05-07-2014, 02:51 PM
Personally I think much of the past few postings concerning the closing of "Goodbye" threads is blown out of proportion.

The problem with goodbye threads on forums is that they can devolve.

Personally I find the policy of closing a goodbye thread to be a fair practice as it avoids problems and in essence goodbye threads are not two way discussions anyway.

If a policy needs to be spelled out, it should simply be:

Goodbye and farewell.
We appreciate that players have made meaningful personal connections while playing our games and we also appreciate that sometimes it’s time to say goodbye and move along to something else. To preserve the message of these posts we will close these threads. Any part of these posts or replies that fall under other policies will be handled based on the community guideline.

Ivan_Milic
05-07-2014, 02:55 PM
Limit goodbye threads to server forums, no point in having it in general discussion.

HungarianRhapsody
05-07-2014, 03:01 PM
I dislike your policy of closing Goodbye threads. But since it's the policy itself that I dislike rather than the inclusion in the community guidelines, I'd prefer to see it listed instead of being a hidden policy.

As long as the policy listed in the guidelines states that it's okay to post Goodbye threads, but that you will usually close them rather than simply stating that Goodbye threads are forbidden, then I think we would all benefit from the additional clarity. Having official policies that aren't written down in a place where the community can see them is a bad policy as far as I'm concerned.

Havok.cry
05-07-2014, 03:08 PM
Personally I would leave it as it is.

What I would do is remove the thread that keeps getting quoted by people who never actually read the thread, beyond the initial post, and find out how (or even that) it was resolved (and of course all the silly (silly is my opinion and not an attack or a statement of fact) threads that quoted it). It keeps happening over and over, and it seems like a lot of the people who bring it up don't actually know what happened. If they can't find and quote it anymore, it may curtail that stuff.

Personally I question people who are going back that far in the forums and finding stuff like that. Don't they have something better to do with their time? Like play a game, or argue about whether or not Teh_Troll should get heals or Hjeals, and how many devs and forum posters have become his (its?) minions?

Doing this would also give us more fodder for conspiracy theories (OMG they are trying to hide it from us /endofworld /wrists) and those are always more entertaining than this mess has been.

HungarianRhapsody
05-07-2014, 03:11 PM
Personally I would leave it as it is.

What I would do is remove the thread that keeps getting quoted by people who never actually read the thread, beyond the initial post, and find out how (or even that) it was resolved (and of course all the silly threads that quoted it). It keeps happening over and over, and none of the people "panicking" over it actually have a clue as to what happened. If they can't find and quote it anymore, it may curtail that stuff. Of course those people will likely just look for something else to dredge up and panic over.

Personally I question people who are going back that far in the forums and finding stuff like that. Don't they have something better to do with their time? Like play a game, or argue about whether or not Teh_Troll should get heals or Hjeals, and how many devs and forum posters have become his (its?) minions?

Doing this would also give us more fodder for conspiracy theories (OMG they are trying to hide it from us /endofworld /wrists) and those are always more entertaining than this mess has been.

...or at least modify the initial post in that thread so that people have the updated information.

Teh_Troll
05-07-2014, 03:13 PM
can we still ask people for their stuffs?

xberto
05-07-2014, 03:15 PM
I think the current policies regarding Goodbye threads are fair. Hopefully Turbine will continue to make a great game so that most of us will not need to worry about goodbye threads.


Oh and this ....
can we still ask people for their stuffs?

Rapthorn
05-07-2014, 03:18 PM
Personally I think closing the thread should be based on the initial post more than anything because the initial post is what sets the tone. I've seen plenty goodbye threads from way back when that never ended poorly in any way shape or form because the initial post set a reasonable tone.

For example: Someone saying they are leaving the game due to real life issues (comp dead, no time, new job...) is a thread that likely never needs to be closed at all. Someone else saying they are leaving the game because drop rates suck, no end game, p2w, or other such nonsense are the ones that will devolve.

Why such a "set in stone" attitude about goodbye threads then is my question. There are hundreds of threads on this forum that just reading the title I know will turn into a flame fest and yet they linger and in some cases seem to be a weekly occurrence (merge the servers anyone?). If the object is to close threads before they devolve then at least half the threads currently the most viewed needed to be closed immediately, and quite frankly I think that would be silly. A thread should be closed when, not if it might, devolve.

Therefore my answer to the goodbye thread "problem" is to moderate it when it needs moderation otherwise leave it alone, much like most of the other threads out there.

Grace_ana
05-07-2014, 03:26 PM
Wouldn't it make more sense to wait to close them when they devolve instead of assuming they will? I mean, if even the first goodbye post is bad, that's one thing. But if it's just a nice "Hey, thanks everyone for playing with me" and the posts afterward are fine, why close it? It's a positive expression of community, something I think we need more of, not less. If one or two people insist on sullying an overwhelmingly positive thread, then moderate those particular posts.

Scraap
05-07-2014, 03:38 PM
1. The question is not whether we will continue to close goodbye threads. This is not up for debate. We have never allowed these threads to remain open, and will continue to close goodbye threads with a message wishing the person saying goodbye the best of luck in the future, and with a hope that they return to the game soon.


If you have no intention whatsoever of discussing the merits of the policy, then by all means, simply be up-front about it by inclusion in the posted ruleset. I'd have more to say on the matter, but if it's not up for consideration, then there's really no point in wasting the e-breath.

viktorserak
05-07-2014, 04:48 PM
I honestly dont understand why this is an issue woth spending time on discussing.

Current situation is absolutely fine.

Someone leaves the game and wants to say goodbye and perhaps a few words.

Someone asks Can I haz your stuff and someone posts Mariocarts.

I really think its kinda funny and cute.

And ofc, if the person that is leaving is somehow well known on the forums, then thi is the way to say goodbye to people that actually care a little.

So, I say - keep the current job of eventually closing the threads, wishing the player all the best and stuff.

Engoril
05-07-2014, 04:50 PM
I initially was hesitant to remove the Goodbye rule, but was swayed to do so based on the large amount of community feedback on the subject. Since it appears that some members of the community disagree with the initial decision on the matter, I'd like to take a day or two to re-consider it.

You close good-bye threads that haven't violated any community guideline. Assuming they will eventual violate and closing them in advance because of that is like banning someone because you think they will use an exploit sometime in the future even if they haven't done so yet.

You close good-bye threads solely because they are good-bye threads, not because they have violated your other rules.

Therefore this needs to be explicitly stated so everyone is clear about it.

arkonas
05-07-2014, 05:38 PM
You close good-bye threads that haven't violated any community guideline. Assuming they will eventual violate and closing them in advance because of that is like banning someone because you think they will use an exploit sometime in the future even if they haven't done so yet.

You close good-bye threads solely because they are good-bye threads, not because they have violated your other rules.

Therefore this needs to be explicitly stated so everyone is clear about it.

except for the fact the last one that was just put up had some people i thought were really negative. they started saying oh that never happens to me and just making fun of the op. i think closing the threads after say 24hrs or when it escalates is the best thing to do. don't like it just don't use the forums then. its their rules. honestly if i want to say goodbye i will say it to my friends. random people meh don't know them.

Chai
05-07-2014, 06:34 PM
Treat it like any other thread. When moderators start classifying types of threads with probability level of type of behavior they are creating more unnecessary work for themselves. Thread topic is a pretty arbitrary reason to close a thread unless the topic is addressed by one of the other rules and is considered in violation.

EllisDee37
05-07-2014, 07:25 PM
I see no difference between this forum and any other forum when it comes to goodbye threads. Except for the extremely rare undesired goodbye (eg: "I'm shipping off to Afghanistan tomorrow, so I can't post/play anymore") I view them all as passive aggressive attention ^#*&ing that never do anything good. If you wanted to put a blanket ban on them entirely I'd be all for it.

Deathdefy
05-08-2014, 06:32 AM
I always figured they were locked because they looked bad for the game if they sat on the front page too long - which to my mind is a very sound reason given their lack of content.

If they raise an issue needing discussion, someone carrying the torch via a thead not titled some variation of "I quit" is the way to do it.

They're also almost always unconstructive beyond the initial post (if even that could be said to be constructive in the context of a working exit survey - which may or may not be the case right now).

In the event of locking becoming policy, if I want to say goodbye to someone I actually liked I'll PM them.

kned225
05-08-2014, 12:21 PM
We very rarely take disciplinary action against people posting goodbye, although if the community wished us to be more harsh in this regard, please let us know.


Yes, please

They're pointless nerdrage. Get out the hammer

Engoril
05-09-2014, 10:51 AM
except for the fact the last one that was just put up had some people i thought were really negative. they started saying oh that never happens to me and just making fun of the op. i think closing the threads after say 24hrs or when it escalates is the best thing to do. don't like it just don't use the forums then. its their rules. honestly if i want to say goodbye i will say it to my friends. random people meh don't know them.

You missed the distinction I was trying to make and Cordovan is too.

A good-bye thread that escalates, like the example you gave, can indeed be closed because of any or all of the guidelines it violates. It indeed does not need an explicit "close good-bye thread" rule.

However a well behaved good-bye thread that hasn't escalated is being closed because of what? Violations it is assumed it will do in the future? Not very reasonable in my view. It is closed because it is a well behaved good-bye thread and therefore the guidelines need to say that's going to happen regardless of its lack of other violations.

Why is that one extra paragraph so hard to add to the guidelines when it makes everything crystal clear?

Cordovan
05-09-2014, 04:39 PM
*snip*

Amend the guidelines to reflect this policy.


I say include it, it makes things clear, no matter if philosophically it's implied and covered by other rules. Look at it like this

*snip*


You close good-bye threads that haven't violated any community guideline. Assuming they will eventual violate and closing them in advance because of that is like banning someone because you think they will use an exploit sometime in the future even if they haven't done so yet.

You close good-bye threads solely because they are good-bye threads, not because they have violated your other rules.

Therefore this needs to be explicitly stated so everyone is clear about it.

Thank you all for your feedback! Ultimately, it makes sense to include this in the guidelines. This rule will be added shortly. Remember that the actual longstanding behavior remains unchanged, but let's add it to the Guidelines for clarity and understanding.

Memnir
05-09-2014, 04:48 PM
I think it's disrespectful and rude to the person wishing to say farewell to their freinds, and the community-at-large, to close Goodbye posts that break no other guideline simply because they are farewell threads.


My only suggestion as to a change would be this:
Leave the ones that are not afoul of any rules if they are on a specific server's sub-forum. Close or move those that are in General Discussion. As Goodbye threads are typically a gesture of farewell and respect to those folks the OP met and gamed with during their time here - it makes sense to me that they be confined to their server. If a person plays on multiple servers, then they should limit their Goodbye to their main server. Those in Gen Discussion tend to be more in a "bridge-burning" vein, anyways.


But I continue to feel like closing a peaceful and well-meant Goodbye is more of a slap in the face to the person leaving then it is maintaining any sort of forum decorum by leaving them open.

Sebastrd
05-09-2014, 04:56 PM
But I continue to feel like closing a peaceful and well-meant Goodbye is more of a slap in the face to the person leaving then it is maintaining any sort of forum decorum by leaving them open.

If I ever see one, I might consider agreeing with you.

HungarianRhapsody
05-09-2014, 05:18 PM
If I ever see one, I might consider agreeing with you.

Here are a few:

https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/434102-Goodbye?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/430898-Goodbye-DDO?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/428786-My-slow-goodbye-to-DDO?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/423593-Farewell-but-not-Goodbye?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/422399-My-goodbye-thread?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/420535-A-possible-goodbye-for-now?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/415384-Saying-Goodbye-to-the-Forums?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/410628-Goodbye-DDO?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/407722-saying-goodbye-to-a-layer?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/406125-Goodbye?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/405942-Goodbye-Nox-!?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/403580-Saying-goodbye-for-awhile!?highlight=goodbye

I just did a quick thread search for "goodbye". The initial post in the majority of the threads that I found were both peaceful and well-meaning. Even the threads that criticized Turbine seemed to be doing so in the hopes that Turbine would read the thread and possibly fix some of the many problems that exist in the game to make the game better for the people the thread creators are leaving behind.

I have seen lots of goodbye threads attacked by forum trolls, but what happens is Cordovan or the Cube closes the thread instead of just infracting the people who jumped into the thread just to troll and attack the person leaving. That *especially* happens in any thread where someone says that they are leaving and gives reasons critical of turbine as the straw that broke their camel's back.

Want to make Goodbye threads remain peaceful and well-meaning? Shut down the people who flood into those threads to troll and attack the people who are leaving the game.

ToastyFred
05-09-2014, 05:49 PM
HungarianRhapsody,

Why present us with facts?

It is clear we want to go on believing whatever validates our existence in our own little world.

Heaven forbid we find out what MANY goodbye threads are actually about!

Postumus
05-09-2014, 06:21 PM
I just did a quick thread search for "goodbye". The initial post in the majority of the threads that I found were both peaceful and well-meaning.


Four out of the first five 'goodbyes' you linked are hardly 'well meaning and peaceful.' Each of them contains some dig or criticism about the game and why they are quitting.

If anything you're proving why these types of threads should be closed.


Here are some of the highlights:



https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/434102-Goodbye?highlight=goodbye

"it was a lot of fun... until it wasn't any more"

https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/430898-Goodbye-DDO?highlight=goodbye

"DDO it was fun for a while. Not anymore."

https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/428786-My-slow-goodbye-to-DDO?highlight=goodbye

"it just feels like it is dying and Turbine is driving that coffin nail deeper...

The game is no longer fun because of all the people leaving it in hordes. And those people that left are what made this game what it was... FUN!"

https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/423593-Farewell-but-not-Goodbye?highlight=goodbye
https://www.ddo.com/forums/showthread.php/422399-My-goodbye-thread?highlight=goodbye

"I miss the good parts. Don't really feel like whining or bishing about what made me start to not enjoy the game, instead it just sucks"





My 2 cents:

If people want to say their goodbyes, great. Allow it. But if they are using their 'goodbye' as a platform to complain about why the game isn't fun for them any more, close it.

cdbd3rd
05-09-2014, 08:10 PM
Didn't post several replies since Cord's post about adding clarification to the Guidelines is moving forward.




If I ever see one, I might consider agreeing with you.

Consider as an example when we've had folks suddenly facing a life-threatening condition. I consider *most* everyone in the D&D gaming community friends. Even those of us who have never /may never speak to each other directly, nor party up in-game together. In such cases, it's always been something that we could gather around as an extended family and lend support.

Or in a few extreme cases over the years, lend support to grieving family/friends.


There are good points both for and against arbitrary closing of 'Bye threads, but would hope each would still be judged by it's own specific merits.

burningwind
05-12-2014, 11:36 PM
there should be a good bye section.. for everyone to say their fair well.... this game have been.. lets just say unpleasant lately.. since the implement of the new epic tr i no longer play this game.. maybe ill be back when next patch is up.. who knows.. for now all i care is i ain't gonna work that hard just to repeat the entire game once more...

p.s. usually people quit the game in anger, they don't care about your god **** rule.. i for one.. would be happy if you could bann me.. game account i meant.. i get both collector edition and i deeply regret it~~ well mostly the second one~~ complain on forum no result~~ for example the wizard hat look terrible and nothing like the ones demonstrate on the display picture~~ so the thing is you could bann everyone who say goodbye, but that will only stop them from coming back~~ and which also means further spend money on this game.. if you people could once listen and stop been so greedy most of us will actually stay in this game~~ the guild is gone, the friends are all gone.. now? just hanging around read the forum once few weeks~~ oh.. if you want to bann me, please bann my game account as well~~ ty that would release me from this game..so i can move on with my life.

Chai
05-14-2014, 11:18 AM
I think it's disrespectful and rude to the person wishing to say farewell to their freinds, and the community-at-large, to close Goodbye posts that break no other guideline simply because they are farewell threads.


My only suggestion as to a change would be this:
Leave the ones that are not afoul of any rules if they are on a specific server's sub-forum. Close or move those that are in General Discussion. As Goodbye threads are typically a gesture of farewell and respect to those folks the OP met and gamed with during their time here - it makes sense to me that they be confined to their server. If a person plays on multiple servers, then they should limit their Goodbye to their main server. Those in Gen Discussion tend to be more in a "bridge-burning" vein, anyways.


But I continue to feel like closing a peaceful and well-meant Goodbye is more of a slap in the face to the person leaving then it is maintaining any sort of forum decorum by leaving them open.

This is why I think that closing them DOES need to be up for debate. How often is it that the trollish behavior is exhibited by the person saying goodbye, compared to them saying goodbye, and then getting trolled by others asking for their stuff or worse. There are already rules in the system that address trollish behavior, and IMO need to be enforced on a person by person basis. Shutting down a thread due to its topic means those who intentionally disrupt win out, and can use this tactic on any other topic to gain the same results and paralyze any discussion on any topic they dont want discussed. Sooner or later that topic gets added to the list of "we always close these threads because they dont end well."

Closing down threads based on topic < handling issues on an individual basis. It sends the message that a person can be disruptive in order to get an entire thread closed to push their personal agenda. Shutting threads down due to topic puts control of discussions in the hands of the trolls, who now know that they can get discussions closed by logging on sock puppet accounts and frequently disobeying guidelines to paralyze discussions. Behavior should be enforced on a poster by poster basis to send the message that on topic discussions will not be disrupted or paralyzed.

If that isnt up for discussion, the rest of the semantics really dont matter. Disruptive behavior on sock puppet accounts wins, due to being able to control and paralyze entire discussions at will.

IronClan
05-14-2014, 11:44 AM
Goodbye threads are mostly calls for attention by people who aren't leaving.

If I had 100tp for every time someone posted goodbye and yet is still here I'd have Otto's boxes paid for entirely by goodbye threads.

There are people IN THIS THREAD that have posted them and never left.

kned225
05-14-2014, 11:47 AM
there should be a good bye section.. for everyone to say their fair well.... this game have been.. lets just say unpleasant lately.. since the implement of the new epic tr i no longer play this game.. maybe ill be back when next patch is up.. who knows.. for now all i care is i ain't gonna work that hard just to repeat the entire game once more...

p.s. usually people quit the game in anger, they don't care about your god **** rule.. i for one.. would be happy if you could bann me.. game account i meant.. i get both collector edition and i deeply regret it~~ well mostly the second one~~ complain on forum no result~~ for example the wizard hat look terrible and nothing like the ones demonstrate on the display picture~~ so the thing is you could bann everyone who say goodbye, but that will only stop them from coming back~~ and which also means further spend money on this game.. if you people could once listen and stop been so greedy most of us will actually stay in this game~~ the guild is gone, the friends are all gone.. now? just hanging around read the forum once few weeks~~ oh.. if you want to bann me, please bann my game account as well~~ ty that would release me from this game..so i can move on with my life.

I like how a post supporting goodbye threads quickly deteriorates into the reason they get closed

On a side note, i find it interesting that, of all the things wrong with ddo, in your idc-ban-me rant, your key piece of evidence.....your one blazing beacon of Turbine's ineptitude was..

"the wizard hat look terrible"

Chai
05-14-2014, 12:01 PM
My 2 cents:

If people want to say their goodbyes, great. Allow it. But if they are using their 'goodbye' as a platform to complain about why the game isn't fun for them any more, close it.

In a game with increased attrition, the most valuable information is why the game isnt fun anymore for folks who are leaving. Dismissing that information might be the biggest fiscal mistake they make.

HungarianRhapsody
05-14-2014, 03:42 PM
Four out of the first five 'goodbyes' you linked are hardly 'well meaning and peaceful.' Each of them contains some dig or criticism about the game and why they are quitting.

If anything you're proving why these types of threads should be closed.

I did read all of those goodbyes and all of them were well meaning and peaceful. Some of them contained some criticism about the game or about the way that Turbine is managing the game. That's not a bad thing.

DDO is losing players. There has been significant attrition over the last couple of years. Even when someone doesn't want to play the game because it isn't fun for them anymore, they often still care about the game and want it to do well. They're not posting those criticisms because they hate Turbine and want bad things to happen. They're posting them in the hope that maybe Turbine will fix some of the problems that drove them away.

When people post bug reports, it's not because they're mad at Turbine. It's because they want DDO to be even better than it is now. When people post goodbye threads, it's usually for the same reason. If they didn't care about the game, they wouldn't bother to make those posts that let Turbine know what needs to be fixed/changed.

The scariest thing in DDO for me isn't the number of people who post "goodbye" threads. It's the number of people that have left in the last couple of years that didn't bother to do so.

burningwind
05-14-2014, 04:47 PM
I like how a post supporting goodbye threads quickly deteriorates into the reason they get closed

On a side note, i find it interesting that, of all the things wrong with ddo, in your idc-ban-me rant, your key piece of evidence.....your one blazing beacon of Turbine's ineptitude was..

"the wizard hat look terrible"

well that may not be a major issue, but it is the second last straw lay on the camel, with epic tr cost being the last~~~ serious am really looking forward to those wiz hat when i pre order... in the end big disappointment~~~ which teach me a lesson ->"stop spending money on this game"

p.s. seems am still here~~~ oh well i can haunted this forum a big longer i guess~~